In an episode of DANGMonolgue, a series which shares the firsthand stories of people, a Nigerian mom, Solabomi Garba talks about her journey into becoming a mother. Solabomi had been waiting to have her own child for 11 years and it finally heaven smiled at her when she was 40.
She had her bundle of joy when she was 41 via a surrogate.
The excited mom shared her journey to having her baby through surrogacy and the irreplaceable joy of being a mother.
Read below…
”If you ever wondered if youâre going to connect with the child thatâs been growing in a surrogateâs womb for 9 months, thereâs nothing to worry about. The connection is instant! Just like that!
Itâs as if your child has been waiting to meet you and you have been waiting to meet your child. I canât even describe the feeling, itâs indescribable. The first thing I felt was gratitude, humility, finallyâŠ. I have friends, they are still there, waiting longer than I, that still donât have their child. So, thank you God that I have gotten this opportunity.
It was a good feeling. All I could think of was I would do anything, everything to protect this child, to love this child. So many promises in my head. Of course, as you can understand, I broke down.. the midwives, the nurses, the doctors⊠there was no dry eyes in the ward. It was beautiful.
I had never seen anything so beautiful in my life. He cried and his voice was gold in my ears. Finally, I am carrying a child I wouldnât have to give birth to as his mother, I am his mother.
It didnât feel like it. It felt strange. Am I in a dream? I hoped and prayed I never wake up if this is a dream. Iâm happy to be in dreamland forever as long as I can have this child with me.
My advice to anybody going through this waiting on the lord for anything, is not to let anybody put you down. Donât let anybody say, youâre not a woman. Youâre not a mother, youâre not good enough. You will get the subtle messages, you will going to get it a lot.
People telling you, âgo and get pregnant for somebody else, your husband wouldnât know, youâre doing him a favour or leave him, try somebody else, if you get pregnant, get an abortion.â Iâve heard it all.
But itâs up to you. Itâs a cycle but its hard. Iâve been on this for 11 years and it finally worked when I was 40. I had him when I was 41. Iâve met people that are well over 50 and they say things like, âIâve been praying and fastingâŠâ
You can do all that. Just make sure you cover all the areas. The best thing out of this experience is, finally, Iâm carrying a child that I donât have to return.”
