In an episode of DANGMonolgue, a series which shares the firsthand stories of people, a Nigerian mom, Solabomi Garba talks about her journey into becoming a mother. Solabomi had been waiting to have her own child for 11 years and it finally heaven smiled at her when she was 40.
She had her bundle of joy when she was 41 via a surrogate.
The excited mom shared her journey to having her baby through surrogacy and the irreplaceable joy of being a mother.
Read below…
”If you ever wondered if youāre going to connect with the child thatās been growing in a surrogateās womb for 9 months, thereās nothing to worry about. The connection is instant! Just like that!
Itās as if your child has been waiting to meet you and you have been waiting to meet your child. I canāt even describe the feeling, itās indescribable. The first thing I felt was gratitude, humility, finallyā¦. I have friends, they are still there, waiting longer than I, that still donāt have their child. So, thank you God that I have gotten this opportunity.
It was a good feeling. All I could think of was I would do anything, everything to protect this child, to love this child. So many promises in my head. Of course, as you can understand, I broke down.. the midwives, the nurses, the doctorsā¦ there was no dry eyes in the ward. It was beautiful.
I had never seen anything so beautiful in my life. He cried and his voice was gold in my ears. Finally, I am carrying a child I wouldnāt have to give birth to as his mother, I am his mother.
It didnāt feel like it. It felt strange. Am I in a dream? I hoped and prayed I never wake up if this is a dream. Iām happy to be in dreamland forever as long as I can have this child with me.
My advice to anybody going through this waiting on the lord for anything, is not to let anybody put you down. Donāt let anybody say, youāre not a woman. Youāre not a mother, youāre not good enough. You will get the subtle messages, you will going to get it a lot.
People telling you, āgo and get pregnant for somebody else, your husband wouldnāt know, youāre doing him a favour or leave him, try somebody else, if you get pregnant, get an abortion.ā Iāve heard it all.
But itās up to you. Itās a cycle but its hard. Iāve been on this for 11 years and it finally worked when I was 40. I had him when I was 41. Iāve met people that are well over 50 and they say things like, āIāve been praying and fastingā¦ā
You can do all that. Just make sure you cover all the areas. The best thing out of this experience is, finally, Iām carrying a child that I donāt have to return.”
