Dear MIMsters: Is It OK For My Child To Have His Last Name After Everything He Has Put Me Through?

Is it OK for my child to have his last name after everything that he has put me through?

My baby daddy left my when I was 2 months pregnant. He had told me to abort the pregnancy but I said no. Then he frustrated my life that I had to change environment because I was scared of what he might do to me. I went through a lot but kept the whole thing from my friends and family.

When my pregnancy was 9 months old, I opened up to my sister. She was happy and broke the news to my family. My family accepted me and helped me unconditionally and also encouraged me to move on with my life.

When I delivered, my mom said I should tell my baby daddy and shouldn’t deny him his responsibilities if he wants to take them on. So I did and he asked me to send my address and he’ll come to see him child but I refused. He kept calling and begging me for months, so I gave in and allowed him meet my baby when he was 6 months old. He pled with me to allow him take on his responsibility and I said ok, since there is nothing I can do to change my child’s DNA from his.

He gave me N5000 and said he’ll send me more money. He called one or two weeks later to ask after his child and after that, he stopped calling for months. I called to know why he has been silent and he said he has not been around that was why he didn’t call to fulfill his promise but I knew he was lying. He begged me to bring his child to his house and I did because I thought he had changed.

When we got to the bus stop, he told us to wait for him there and he came, telling me that he had just received an important call to meet an important client immediately, and that we should come back the next week. I think the reason he did that was because he didn’t want people in his neighbourhood, especially his girlfriends to know that he has a child.

This is someone who sleeps with different girls every night. I found out about this when he chased me out.

Later that night, he called me to say my child is not his. Now the thing is, is it ok for my child to have his last name after calling my child a bastard and after everything he has put me through?