South African Man, Dan, Shares Why It Is Futile Trying To Save Some Marriages
A South African man has taken to his Twitter handle to share the sad story of his divorce from his wife of two years. Dan took to his handle @DMlamla to share that one partner’s good intentions is not enough to help a marriage survive if their significant other is not as keen.
According to Dan, he and his ex-wife dated for seven years and were married for two years. He explained that his wife’s attitude towards their marriage changed when she got a job.
He later discovered she was still seeing her former boyfriend. Efforts to win her back proved abortive as she informed him she was still in love with her ex-boyfriend whom she described as her ideal man, while she saw Dan as merely someone who would make a good husband.
After trying repeatedly to save his marriage to no fruitful end, Dan shares that one can never be good enough for some people and that it is futile to try to salvage some relationships.
His story reads:
”My story for divorcing. We were 7 years in a relationship and 2 years in marriage. She got a job then all of a sudden I started seeing a sudden change in her. Kanti that time useqomile.
I caught her more than 3 times with the same guy but she kept on saying they have broke up but they were dating. I tried fixing things it with her but I failed. I called my family they failed.
I called her family they failed and said I should see what to do because bona bahlulekile. I sat her down and asked her to please be free to me and just speak like a friend why enza kaso.
She then told me that it’s hard for her to dump the guy because she loves this guy. Imagine she even went as far as that we should be in an open relationship until after we reach 30 years, her reasons was that she got married young and she can’t leave the guy because they both in love with each other.
I was so broken and hurt. It was the first time I cried for a woman I begged her to love me. I remember kneeling down begging her to love me. At that time we stayed together maybe about 6 months without sex We would go to church putting rings like nothing is wrong.
What made me to decide to leave or she must leave was when she told me that this guy was her ideal man. That me I was just a good guy and had potential to be a good husband but yena all these years she wasn’t happy.
I did all I could in my power. I remember hiring a car to chase them and when I get to her work she just said “unedrama shame”
But what I can is that YOU CAN NEVER BE GOOD ENOUGH FOR SOMEONE WHO DOESN’T DESERVE YOU.”
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.. they have broke up but they were dating.I tried fixing things it with her but I failed. I called my family they failed. I called her family they failed and said I should see what to do because bona bahlulekile. I sat her down and asked her to please be free to me and just..
— Khwalo (@Ncuthu_) July 24, 2020