Actress/Mum-of-3, Charity Nnaji Opens Up On Leaving Her Marriage Of 13 Years Despite Her Mother’s Advice, Plus Why Money Will Play A Key Role In Deciding Whom She Next Marries
Age disparity and money in marriages have often been the subjects of discourse on social media and actress, Charity Nnaji, is of the opinion that marrying a rich man would always guarantee happiness in a union. The divorced mum-of-three did not mince words in her weekend interview with Punch where she also revealed that she walked out of her marriage of 13 years in spite of her mother’s advice to endure the union.
Charity in her interview with Sunday Scoop said she totally sees herself making the choice of whom to marry on the basis of their ability to provide, saying also that love is not enough to keep a marriage going.
“I can marry because of money. If one doesn’t love a man but marries him because of his money, one would later fall in love with him.
But when one loves a man who does not have money, the love would later fade. I don’t care how strong the bond is, once the woman is the one footing the bills, she may start getting angry.
Money is like a solid foundation that holds marriage. An average Nigerian woman who is married to a jobless man would most likely cheat.
Love is not enough as far as marriage is concerned. A young woman would only marry an old man if money is involved.
If one marries a rich man, one would love him naturally without stress. I have seen a very lovely relationship that crashed because of lack of money. Money is like a spice that garnishes relationships.
She said.
“With my past experience in marriage, anyone I would consider would have to be rich.
I don’t plan to burden him with my children’s responsibilities but I cannot marry a man that I earn more than because he would feel threatened. I am not ready to settle for less.
If one is married to a rich man, wisdom demands that one should save for the rainy days.
If a rich man later goes broke, the survival of the marriage would depend on how the man treated the woman when he had money.
If he treated one well, then one could endure with him. But, if he treated one unfairly, one would leave him even before the money (totally) vanishes.”
Nnaji, however noted that she would not want to marry an ‘old’ man.
“I don’t fantasise about old men. I see them as people that had enjoyed themselves in the past and only want to take advantage of me.
Life is too short to stay in a frustrating marriage. What is the point of having money in marriage when I am not satisfied sexually?
It would eventually lead to cheating, which is not good for a married woman,
she said.
The mother of three also recounted how she was abused by the father of her three children. She added,
“I was a victim of domestic violence. Marriage is for the living. I can endure anything but not domestic violence.
The more I prayed, the worse he got. I love my kids so much and I did not want them to grow in such circumstances.
The last incident was terrible and after the fight, I decided it was over after 13 years of marriage.
My mum tried to give me reasons to endure my marriage but I just could not stay any longer.”