‘I’ve Never Believed That I Have To Wait For A Man To Toast Me’ – Aisha Yesufu Writes As She Encourages Single Ladies With How Her Love Story With Husband Started
Aisha Yesufu has shared the story of how, at the age of 23, she took the bold step to ask her husband out, who was 35 years old at the time.
The famous Nigerian activist and social critic, explained that it took eight months for her husband to reciprocate her love after she expressed her feelings.
According to the co-founder of the Bring Back Our Girls movement, she has never waited for a man to ask her out and she advised other women to take the lead when they see a man they like.
The mom-of-two emphasised the positive aspect of a man acknowledging that his wife made the move, reversing the traditional narrative.
The 49-year-old mentioned that she used to tease her husband about missing out on something good if she had not wooed him.
She added that she never believed in waiting for a man to woo her. She said she was content with being single and that many people were surprised when she tied the knot, highlighting that she was expected to remain unmarried.
Mrs Yesufu stated this on her X page while reacting to a video about how American artistic gymnast Simone Biles and her husband, Jonathan Owens, met.
She wrote:
“My husband can say this and honestly I wouldn’t be bothered. I did see him, fell in love with him and went after him and it took 8 months for him to come around.
8 months later we were married. So it was a 16 months project! From Dec 13th 1996 to April 17th 1998.
I was 23 and he was 35 when we met. Today I do tease him that ‘na so e for miss better thing if I didn’t take the initiative.
Also whenever I tease him about taking long in making a decision he is quick to remind me that’s why I met him single.
I have never believed that I have to wait for a man to toast me. For what? Limit myself to anyone that comes rather than who I think is a good fit for me? Most importantly I was always okay single.
It was the biggest surprise for many when I got married. I was the one that would have been predicted to be single and unmarried.
If you see him and want him go after him and it’s also okay for him to say you chased and got him.”
It is not the first time Mrs Yesufu has opened up about her private life, especially her marriage. In 2021, the mother-of-two, in an interview with BBC shared their love story.
This newspaper reported that Mrs Yesufu, who described herself as a “control freak,” maintained that she has always been the one to approach men – she had never been in a relationship where the man asked her out.
She said her controlling attitude encouraged her to approach her husband and present herself to him as his wife.
