‘I Didn’t Expect To Wait For 9 Years Before Having A Baby’ -Ify’s Kitchen Shares Her Struggle With Infertility
Famous Nigerian food content creator, Ify Mogekwu popularly known as Ify’s Kitchen has opened up about her personal journey through nine years of infertility, shedding light on the emotional challenges and societal pressures she faced during that time.
Ify, while speaking during a recent interview on the Terms and Conditions podcast, detailed the emotional turmoil of the waiting period for a child.
Ify who is now a mother of two explained,
“It wasn’t the best at all and one thing that really messes with you during the waiting period is you have no idea. It’s a different thing if someone comes to you to tell you that you’d give birth after seven or eight years but you have no clue.”
Initially, Ify and her husband had planned to take their first year of marriage easy, without focusing on starting a family. However, by the second year, they found themselves questioning what was happening.
She explained further:
“My husband and I planned to just chill for the first year and not try for kids but by the second year we were like, ‘Wait a minute, isn’t it supposed to be very easy?'”
She recalled how, over time, their worry intensified and the wait took a toll on her mental and emotional health; she even believed that God hated her. Ify added:
“It was very difficult, second-year people were like it’d happen but by the third year, I didn’t know what was happening. It was really really hard and then you’d see people talking about women giving birth after 20 years.”
She concluded,
“I remember seeing a comment somewhere that read, ‘Those of you who give birth easily don’t know what God has done for you, God loves you.’ I was like, ‘God really hates me,’ and it wasn’t directed at me, I wept at work that day and asked God what I had done and why he doesn’t love me.”
Watch the full interview below: