Dear MIMsters: How My In-laws Crumbled my Marriage

I got married sometime in 2011 but my marriage crumbled in just some few months. My husband’s siblings came and asked me to leave our house. They accused me of things that were not true. They said I was stubborn and wrongly advised and influenced by friends. My in-laws sent me parking out of my marital home for the above mentioned accusation which are not true.

5 of my husband’s siblings were living with us in a two bedroom apartment. They are all adults. As if that was not enough, his friends and other relatives also come visiting, unannounced and will still squat with us in that same 2 bedroom apartment. They never accorded me any respect or regards because they feel it is their brother’s house.

The main issue here is that after I was sent out by my in-laws, all my effort to reconcile with my husband has proved abortive. Together with my family, I sought for reconciliation and peace but his people are so adamant. I personally tried calling my then husband severally; sent him messages but received no reply. Instead, he shows the messages to his girlfriends and goes about ridiculing me before friends. But I kept on doing the needful to reconcile with him.

I drove down to his village to plead with his mum and dad but to no avail! Even the church sent for him but he refuse to honour their invitation. I went to see the Pastor to have a talk with him about my marriage and he said he doesn’t see anything cogent enough to break my marriage.

I have prayed and fasted but to no avail. I have decided to move on and file for divorce after 3 years of separation. My question is: is it now wrong for me to remarry considering all I have done to make sure the marriage works? I look forward to your comments.