Dear MIMsters: How My In-laws Crumbled my Marriage
I got married sometime in 2011 but my marriage crumbled in just some few months. My husband’s siblings came and asked me to leave our house. They accused me of things that were not true. They said I was stubborn and wrongly advised and influenced by friends. My in-laws sent me parking out of my marital home for the above mentioned accusation which are not true.
5 of my husband’s siblings were living with us in a two bedroom apartment. They are all adults. As if that was not enough, his friends and other relatives also come visiting, unannounced and will still squat with us in that same 2 bedroom apartment. They never accorded me any respect or regards because they feel it is their brother’s house.
The main issue here is that after I was sent out by my in-laws, all my effort to reconcile with my husband has proved abortive. Together with my family, I sought for reconciliation and peace but his people are so adamant. I personally tried calling my then husband severally; sent him messages but received no reply. Instead, he shows the messages to his girlfriends and goes about ridiculing me before friends. But I kept on doing the needful to reconcile with him.
I drove down to his village to plead with his mum and dad but to no avail! Even the church sent for him but he refuse to honour their invitation. I went to see the Pastor to have a talk with him about my marriage and he said he doesn’t see anything cogent enough to break my marriage.
I have prayed and fasted but to no avail. I have decided to move on and file for divorce after 3 years of separation. My question is: is it now wrong for me to remarry considering all I have done to make sure the marriage works? I look forward to your comments.
It is not wrong at all. Please move on and remarry. 3 years is not a small time to be begging a man and his family to take you back. You should remarry and enjoy your life. After all he is enjoying his life.
Let me tell u something my dear sister GODs plan for u is far better than the way u see it. In a situation like this go ahead and remarry by the grace of God u will not regret doing that u will even thank God for bringing u out of that family.
by the bible standards u are not to remarry….its your choice…
In d Bible it’s says all things works together for good for those that love god my dear it tells you that u should pray for directions so u won’t fall prey again for d enemy
Dear Sis, heaven and earth will bear you witness that you tried to make peace with your husband and in-laws but I don’t think they want that peace.
You are not doing anything wrong for filing for a divorce after separation cos 3yrs is more than enough to iron out any issue you both are having.Pls move on with your life Sis the lord will surely see you through.