Twice-Divorced Actress, Joy Anyim Sets Record Straight on Her Love and Career Choices
Marriage has been very unfavorable for Nollywood producer and actress, Joy Anyim. The Enugu state born mother of one who got married to her first hubby at age 22, reveals she’s been very unlucky with marriages but that doesn’t mean she has given up on love.
According to information gathered, Joy has been married twice and divorced, but still, she said she has hopes to walk down the aisle in future.
In July 2015, the tall, light skin beauty welcomed her first child, a baby girl named Sherebiah, with her second husband Joseph Etiebet whom she married in 2014.
However, in 2016, the marriage crashed over claims of infidelity on the part of the actress. Well, in this chat with GoldmyneTV, the 28-year-old star finally opens up about her failed marriages, domestic violence, court battles, and upcoming projects.
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Yes, I have, I have been very unlucky with marriages but that doesn’t mean I have given up on marriage. I will still get married but for now, I think I need a long break from the drama it carries.I will be 29 years old very soon and I’ve been married twice and divorced too, people saw it as crazy and a lot of mouths opened to call me names but if any of those marriages took my life, I believe same people would ask why didn’t she just leave?Well, I am not a Hypocrite, it’s not that I wouldn’t have spoken about this marriage issue long ago, I had a lot of writers inbox me to hear my side of the story but I told them off.I remember every day I woke up, I will tell myself, Joy, it is you that matters forget about what people say but on the second thought internet never dies. So for tomorrow sake let me bring you into my marriages story, I was 22 years when I had my first marriage. I was young, innocent it was a beautiful thing to behold but it wasn’t for long, I suffered from domestic violence and not being able to conceive made matters worst.We grow out of what brought us together and we decided to part ways 2013. It wasn’t easy going through the process but it was better to walk away alive than to be carried away dead.In 2014, I decided to give it another try and this time I entered into a womanizer’s hand. A man that will be bringing women into our matrimonial home, a man that is powerful in preaching Bible but his life was the opposite. He doesn’t even use a condom to sleep with these girls, I have records of girl that has aborted for him and he keeps denying.The only thing I bless God for in that marriage was for my daughter. I really wanted that marriage to work is my second marriage and a child coming in too. I don’t want to go into full detail of thing.
There is a saying that goes, if a dog bites a man it is no news but if a man bites a dog it’s a news. A lot of women have seen things in their marriage. I believe marriage was made to be enjoyed not endured. I was breastfeeding my daughter when my husband came up with a story of infidelity, and that he needs separation, I got saved from the court.Little did I know that someone I called my friend was also sleeping with my husband and has gone extra miles to pin him down.I got to know about this, and I was advised by my lawyers not to accept separation from him rather I should file a divorce while I followed the advice.Marriage was not made from heaven but it was made by God to be beautiful and anything apart from that I will not be apart of.
How would you describe your relationship with your estranged husband right now?
We haven’t spoken for long now, he doesn’t think he has anything to say to me but believe me, he does and there will be a time that he will ask for audience. I pray God gives me the heart to listen to him because I have tried everything possible to contact him because of our daughter but he does not pick calls nor reply text messages.
Funny enough I wasn’t even calling for money but for him to be part of our little girl growing up life and I have stopped. I know right now he is seeing me as his worst enemy and that I may expose him to the world, which I am still considering that option.
Going according to the world today, every woman nickname is a prostitute, in my case I know that those names were just used as excuses to cover a lot of truth from my ex, it doesn’t affect me because none of those saying were true.People see us actors as freaks but I tell you we are one of the most disciplined sets of people, our job isn’t for everybody, which is the reason we see ourselves as professionals.
My love life is frozen, for now, I am relating with everybody as one. I will get involved again when I am ready, I am not a sex freak. As a psychologist, I have learned to keep my emotions in check, and one thing you should know is that there is a hormone that enhances sex in our body and if it is not active, anyone can stay without want.Many are facing an in-activeness because of fear of getting hurt and some have suffered in relationships, they develop hate and before you know it one will become straight.This is one of the reason I still believe in Love. I don’t want my past experiences to push me to that point that I’ll lose hope in good people.
That can not be true. I have right to do whatever I want to do with my money at any given time and funny enough I wasn’t even living a lavish lifestyle even as an actor. What are we even saying?Everyone knows that when being invited to film, you are lodged in the hotel and when you are done with the job, you pack up and go. So people saying I’m seen in a hotel is just like saying “A lion eats flesh” which of course is not a news because a Lion isn’t a vegetarian.I am not broke and will never be. I’ve never depended on a man to finance my lifestyle even while married, I work for my money and I spend it on the important and needful.
All the best to her.
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