Sexual Health Experts Suggest Ways Couples Above 70 Can Enjoy A Fulfilling Sex Life

Experts have suggested ways couples above 70 can still enjoy a fulfilling and active sex life.

The sexual health experts noted that with a little creativity, communication, and flexibility, couples above 70 could still have a satisfying and enjoyable sex life.

Speaking exclusively with PUNCH Healthwise, the experts pointed out that sexual intimacy remains a vital aspect of emotional connection for older adults.

They emphasised that intimacy could help to reduce stress, enhance emotional bonding, and improve the quality of life for elderly couples.

A sex coach, Deyemi Olaoye, said age was not a barrier to enjoying sex, stressing that older adults had every right to enjoy a fulfilling sex life.

Olaoye said for couples above 70 to enjoy sex, they should embrace other forms of intimacy, such as kissing, touching, and oral sex.

He noted that these activities could be just as enjoyable and fulfilling as intercourse, and they could be adapted to accommodate any physical limitations.

While noting that physical changes such as reduced libido, hormonal shifts, and mobility issues could make sexual activity more difficult, the sex expert maintained that these barriers could often be overcome with some adjustments.

He explained that one of the key strategies for older couples was communication, urging couples above 70 to have an open and honest dialogue about intimacy.

Olaoye stated that there was a need for the couple to talk about preferences, desires, and any concerns about health or discomfort to have a more satisfying and enjoyable experience for both partners.

He said,

“Sex is not just about penetration; it’s about intimacy, connection, and pleasure. Couples can still experience all of these things, even if they’re not as physically able as they used to be.

“While it’s true that our bodies change as we age, that doesn’t mean we can’t still enjoy sex. In fact, many couples find that their sex life improves with age, as they become more comfortable with each other and more confident in their bodies.”

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He continued:

“Communication is key to a fulfilling sex life, regardless of age. Couples should talk about what they like and don’t like, and be willing to try new things and adapt to any physical changes.

“Sex is not just about physical pleasure; it’s also about emotional connection and intimacy. Couples should make time for regular date nights, romantic getaways, and other activities that promote intimacy and connection.”

He advised couples above 70 to engage in regular physical activity, adding that this could help improve circulation and boost overall energy levels.

He, however, noted that it was important for couples to approach sexual activity with the same caution they would with any other physical activity, especially if one or both partners have preexisting health conditions.

He expressed concern that many older adults feel that their desires or sexual activity are frowned upon by younger generations, leading to feelings of shame or self-consciousness

The sex expert advocated for a more open-minded approach to sexuality at all ages, stressing that older adults have every right to enjoy a fulfilling sex life.

“Sexual intimacy does not have to fade as couples age. With the right tools, open communication, and a healthy lifestyle, older couples can continue to enjoy fulfilling sex lives well into their later years.

The key, they say, is understanding the changes that come with age, being open to adaptations, and maintaining a strong emotional connection that transcends physical challenges,”

he concluded.

On his part, a certified psychotherapist, Michael Jacob noted that sex after 70 is not the end of desire, but rather the beginning of a new, more intentional kind of intimacy.

Jacob popularly known as ‘Mind Therapist’ emphasised the importance of open dialogue between partners as they age.

While stressing that communication becomes the key to maintaining intimacy and connection, the therapist said couples over 70 must learn to navigate their evolving relationship dynamics which often involves confronting insecurities, fear of aging, and shifting expectations around sex and intimacy.

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He pointed out that intimacy was not solely about physical connection. He added:

“Sex isn’t just about bodies. It’s about two souls choosing to hold on to each other, despite everything time has tried to take away.”

Jacob also emphasised that intimacy in later years becomes more intentional.

“You don’t stumble into it like you did in your 20s. You choose it, nurture it, redefine it,” he explains.

This intentional approach, he noted, includes focusing on small, meaningful moments of connection like holding hands during an evening stroll or sharing a quiet meal.

He stated that these simple acts often carry more significance than grand gestures, providing a deep sense of closeness.

Jacob stressed that intimacy at any age could be fulfilling and rewarding if approached with intention and effort. He added,

“People assume intimacy is for the young, for bodies that move with ease, for skin without wrinkles. But intimacy isn’t youth; it’s connection. It’s two people, at any stage in life, deciding to reach for each other emotionally, physically, and intentionally.

“Some also believe that aging bodies are broken, unattractive, or incapable of pleasure. Erectile dysfunction, vaginal dryness, slower arousal, these are not failures.

They’re natural changes, not an end to intimacy. With communication, patience, and the right tools like lubricants, medical support, or new ways of touching therapeutic support pleasure is very much possible.

“And then there’s this idea that sex after a certain age shouldn’t matter, as though desire is something to outgrow. But the sexual connection isn’t just about physical gratification, it’s about feeling seen, feeling alive.

Aging doesn’t take away your need for closeness or your right to pleasure. It’s as vital at 70 as it is at 30. The truth? Sex and intimacy can deepen with age. The pressure to perform fades, replaced by a focus on connection, playfulness, and shared understanding.”

Jacob also advocated for couples to prioritise their sexual health as an integral part of overall well-being.

“It’s about breaking the silence and talking about your needs, your fears, and your body’s changes.

“Seeking medical help when needed, such as consulting a doctor about erectile dysfunction or vaginal dryness, is not just about fixing a problem; it’s about maintaining the health of the relationship.”