7 Simple Tips To Keep Your S*x Life Interesting After The Kids

In a lot of marriages, intimacy gradually takes the back seat as more kids arrive and the demands of raising them, managing the home, work, and everyday life increase. This often has adverse effects. However, it doesn’t have to be that way when you can help it. Find 7 simple things you can do to keep your sex life interesting regardless of the increasing changes in your lives since you both said ‘I do’…

1. Schedule it & be creative. May sound quite unromantic but if being too tired is always the issue, opting for this in the meantime, communicating your needs while at it and frequently devising fresh ways to excite each other may boost your appetite over time and stop the flames from getting totally extinguished.

Also, try making good use of shower or bath times.

2. Build anticipation. Talk dirty via chats, e-mails and so on while at work (careful though, you don’t want to mistakenly send any of that to a colleague or client). Share your fantasies. These may help build anticipation and boost your perhaps dwindling appetite, so there are no excuses when you see each other.

3. Steal frequent alone times. These do not have to cut a hole in your pocket. Opt for what’s affordable. The idea is to make being together in a fun place that allows needed privacy over a fairly long period, say a week, a top priority.

You can even have your alone mini-vacays in the comfort of your home every other weekend if travel and lodging bills are currently off your budget. All you need do is send the kids off to grandma or that trusted relative they’ve been longing to visit. Make good use of their school holidays as well, and remember, even on weekends when you are all home, you can always sneak into another room to get busy – you only have to remember to lock the door. They will call or knock if they need you.

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4. Stop co-sleeping. Not sharing the same room with your kids definitely does not make you a bad parent. In fact, letting them sleep in their own room from 3 years is a good way to teach and foster independence. And if you have a baby, though there will still be lots of interruptions, make good use of that lovely nursery you decorated before baby’s birth, ‘mama’ who’s there to help with the baby and your nanny (if any) to keep from getting too boring in your bedroom.

5. Stay sexy & attractive. Aging, the demands of work, childbirth, parenting and stress of everyday life can take it toil and turn you into the exact opposite of your hot, old self after years of marriage without you really realizing it and your spouse may no longer find you attractive. So, exercise, take good care of your body and flatter it in outfits and night dresses that suit your body type.

6. Enforce bedtime & nap time schedules. Getting your kids to observe a routine in this regard will especially work for you during holidays and weekends, creating some more alone time to share with your spouse.

7. Be generous with physical affection. It doesn’t always have to be all about sex. Employ all forms of showing affection (a simple kiss, touch, hug, and so on) to stay connected to each other.