Dear MIM Readers: Why Is One Woman Trying So Hard To Break Something That God Brought Together?
I need help before I end my life and that of my three kids.
Hear my story please. I’ve been married for 11 years and blessed with 3 kids and a wonderful husband. My husband had an affair with another woman when he went to work in another country. After seven months of same year, we went to join him and started a new life. He told the woman about us but she refused to leave the house the morning he came to pick us from the airport.
After 1 week of stay, my houseboy revealed all the secrets and resigned because he felt it was right to say the truth. I confronted my husband and he didn’t deny a single word the boy said. I forgave and him we continued with our lives. Before long he quit his job because he was too ashamed of what had happened and we returned to our mother country to start all over again after 2 years. Life was not easy I tell you fellow women.
To cut the story short, on Saturday, my brother called through hubby’s phone when I was upstairs. I received it but it cut. Women, before I could even redial the number, by mistake my finger went straight to WHATSAPP. To my surprise, the ladies number appeared with massages. Apparently, the woman claims she got pregnant and gave birth to a baby girl. They’ve been communicating for the past 4 years. That night wahala (trouble) happened and it took the intervention of our pastor.
Why is this woman trying so hard to break something that God brought together? She once bragged that she has another man far better than my husband and she has moved on. Even sources from the other side confirmed it. `she already has another child from a previous relationship and the father left for states. the boy is 7 years. Some women are wicked.
Hubby is saying the woman has refused to send even a photo of the baby for over 4 years. She wants hubby to go and see her personally in the other country. Fellow woman, for once I felt for hubby cause he is so stressed over the issue. All he wants is to make things right. The lady has totally refused to send baby pictures. Yesterday, hubby told her that I already know everything and it’s no longer a secret. Everyone in his and my families have condemned it. My questions are: 1.Why does he want my husband to go back? 2. Why can’t she simply send a photo to prove the existence of the baby? 3. She has even refused to mention the day and month the baby was born. Fellow women kindly give me your input on this.
I don’t believe there is baby anywhere she is only using it 2 get close 2 ur husby, if there is she would ve send d pix long b4 now.
This is a hard one. To me the woman just want your hubby back and she is trying to blackmail him with a suppose child which might be true. Tell your hubby to tell the woman to visit with the child that he will finance the whole the trip and see if she will budge.
Message..I swear women re deir own worst enemy mtcheeew hw cn a woman kws fully dat a man is married n still be putting head n hw can sm shameless men kw de re married to Gold n still be luking for non-Gold outside mtcheew. Cm to tink of it is it nt de same vagina we all hv? Shame on sm men n shame on sm women
No baby cos if dearis she could have sent d pix
No baby anywhere, that woman is just trying her possible best to snatch your husband from you forever.Beacuse truly if she gave birth to a baby she would have it it long time ago.
There’s no baby anywhere. Woman do not loose sleep over this.
Your husband has a serious fault on this too he needs to end it ..He is the one encouraging it. No baby pic end of story
hmmmm,pls forget abt dy gold digger nd enjoy ur family dia is no baby anywer,nd ur husbnd shld block her frm all his contact both on social media if dat wil warrantbhim changin his name on social media,unless ur husbnd is still interested in her
I still don’t know why she wants to end her life and dat of her kids
nne u are there, still contemplating on that part o, i havn’t seen why she want to end their lifes.
My Dear there is no child involved,if there is at all its not for your husband, if you want to know, tell your husband to ignore her and if she keeps pressing then let your husband tell her to come over for a DNA test on the child in an hospital of his own choice…..
I have seen a case like this before …. The lady wants to trap your husband that’s all
Loser that’s her middle name
Showed him*
Serious matter. Pls dear poster I don’t think she had a baby for your hubby. She is just desperate to have him back.
When a thing like this happens, you begin to wonder why the man went and had an affair in the first place since he had a wonderful wife and adorable children @ home. It’s not the other woman who wants to put assunder, rather your husband because he that went and fetch an insects infested wood should expect the lizards to visit. He brought a strange woman into your lives and seriously, it takes two to tango so the woman alone is not to be blamed. Since it has so happened, to be on the safer side, both of you should take the trip and go verify if truely she had a baby as she claimed. It might be she’s telling the truth or she’s equally lying, there’s noway for you to know if you don’t follow him to go see the lady after all he hid their communication from you for 4 years, if not that you accidentally found out. But with you fully in the picture now, she’ll realise that your hubby has really moved on and she’s just chasing shadows.
Never u allow him travel 2 meet dat devil’s daughter, if u mk d mistake hmmmm u’ll loose dat so-called-husband 4 life. Men dat cn’t be truthful 4 once, maybe at first he told d lady he was still single.mtchwwwww. Anyways dear, whtever happens, honestly it is worth taking ur precious LIFE! Just be sure u’re financial stable, be happy, serve ur God & tk good care of ur children. Just be strong @ heart & engage in things dat keep u moving. U’ld be fine ok. Stay alive 4 ur kids. Dy need u MOST. Relegate dat man plssss…
No child my dear. He wants your hubby to come. Drug him and sleep with him so there will be a child. Let her come or send a.pic or leave it. Infact, your hubby should block such a woman
Just take it that there is no baby anywhere and even if she has a baby your hubby may not be the father. She’s just looking for a way to get your hubby back. Only God knows what she has planned for him when he goes to see her. Your hubby should tell her that is she doesn’t send a photo he will take it that there’s no baby and he should try to forget her. He has 3kids already he should concentrate on those ones
She just wants him back 2 her.l only blame ur hubby 4 communicating with her secretly without telling u about d new development.There is no baby but if there is,insist on a DNA
If truly there is a child involved, I’d suggest you travel with your hubby to meet this woman and confront her. Truth be told, your hubby will never forgive himself if he finds out later that he truly has a child with her but he “abandoned” the child.
If you confirm the child is his via DNA, then your hubby should take up the responsibility of providing for the child. I have seen marriages where love children are accepted and taken as one.
The onus is on you to act responsibly. The way you react, will determine what happens in your marriage.
Best of luck
Ur husband is still very much interested in dat woman. This thing is a very simple somthing, he should simply disconnect from that woman change his line block her from his facebook and any other social media platform and forget everything about the woman and her “invisible child”.
there is no baby. she is a home destroyer. thank God your husband has learnt his lesson.
I wonder why your husband is still communicating with her.If she doesn’t want to provide the pix of the baby,that one is her business.Who is begging her?I guess your husband is the soft type or maybe he’s still interested in her.You guys should block her in whatever way blockable and live your life as if she doesn’t exist.Even if she later comes back with any baby,go for a DNA test.And btw,there’s no baby,but if you allow your hubby to go and see her,there will be a baby
This is just sad sad sad. This is one of those times when men don’t get away with cheating.
well that said, the lady looks like the obsessed and possessive type. the best way to handle such is to call their bluff. let ur hubby change his number, disconnect or cut of his social media accounts, and tell her to do what ever she likes and that he does not care if she has a child for him or not. And if she really claims so, she should bring the child herself and they will go for a DNA test. otherwise, to hell with her.
i have been with someone who is obsessive and they HATE been ignored. so tell him to cut all communication from her, even if she finds a way to get in contact with him, if she calls and he finds out its her, he should cut the call, NEVER reply her messages. JUST CUT OFF.
As for you poster, since you r willing to be with your hubby, child or not, then don’t worry your pretty head. Tell yourself the child is not your hubby’s. no be today men begin born outside.
Do not allow hubby to go and see her. Let her enjoy the fruit of her escapade and take care of her child (shes not and will not be d last single mother on earth).
Its well
I smell something isn’t right there’s no baby
YOU N YOUR HUBBY ARE JUST STRESSING… NO BABY.
I doubt if there’s any child..she’s just so bent on ruinning ur marriage. I pray God intervenes
Whether there’s a baby or not, let thunder from above strike her for trying to ruin another woman’s home. Mtsheewww
The woman is just playing games
The lady is frued,there is no baby anywhere,
i c d word GAME boldly spelt
There is baby anywhere. The woman just want ur hubby back. Ur hubby shld disconnect himself from that woman as soon as possible.
No baby anywhere bt even if there is pls u and ur husband shuld ignore her and live ur lives
Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his cloth not be burned? Proverbs 6:27
Madam true this mistress is daring but why are you exonerating ur husband? R u sure they broke up after u came? Why did it take him two years to leave because ge was ashamed? R u sure it was not bc he found out about the baby? Who told you she refused to send pictures? Why didn’t he tell u for the whole four years he was communicating with the lady.you said she refused to leave the house d day u were coming meaning she was living with your husband& you are defending a man that not only cheated on you but had a live in lover sleeping in a bed that was supposed to be your matrimonial bed or you expect the woman that played wife to him to just forget him like that?
Let me answer your question; the woman does not see this as breaking your marriage, she sees it as fighting for the man she loved who she shared a part of her life with remember she is selfish and so does not owe you anything. Face your husband and iron this issue out once and for all . hope he is not planning to go there cos u will never see him again. He may or may not have fathered a child with her after he was sleeping with her& most probably without protection (forget what he told you, for not confessing till your houseboy did is a pointer he will continue)
I hate when women leave the men who cheat&hurt them in relationships& who owe allegiance to them and start cursing a 3rd party who they don’t even know.
There is no baby she’s jst trying to get ur husband back let him ignore her and stop communicating with her
Some women are evil
Nawa for dat woman oo
some women are devil,dere is no any baby
Dre is no baby,ur hubby shd try n block her frm all his social network nd u also shd b vigilnt cus men are sowicked.