Dear MIMsters: How Do I Handle A Troublesome Wife Like Mine?
My wife is a troublesome woman. I come home everyday to trouble. We have been married for a year now and I have not had one day of peace.
She likes to control me. She wants to know who I have seen, spoken to and what I said to them. I caught her the other sneaking on me by trying to go through my phone. I told her that she doesn’t have to sneak and gave her my phone to find what she was looking for. I don’t even have the time to cheat even if I wanted to. It’s just too much stress to lie and keep two lives. I’m a mellow kind of guy.
She has this notion that all men cheat and believes I must have a side chick somewhere.
The one that irritates me the most about her is how she spends money. She doesn’t work, I make all the money and she thinks it’s her right to spend anyhow. She tells me that it is her god-given right.
She has an ATM card I gave her which she withdraws at her discretion. When the money finished in that account, I refused to fund it. Since then, she has resorted to stealing. I told her to give me a cost breakdown of what she needs to run the house but she won’t.
My family hardly ever comes to visit me because of her. They would rather invite me over to their house than to visit me. I don’t like trouble, I just want peace. I don’t see this marriage lasting long with the way things are going.
Before I finally give up on this marriage, I need your sound advice on this.
Na wao
Pls be patient with her. Pray about your marriage
Oga pray oo pray until something happens
Who get head no get cap, who get cap no get head. See the kind man some women are looking for oh and ds poster’s wife has it and she’s messing with it smh. Dear poster please put your marriage in prayers that’s all I can.
Message..sack that mother fucker out of the house
My dear brother, plz take it easy with her,call her, ask her wht she wants, try to remind her y u married her, whn u guys were dating, as 4 ur family dnt do things behind ur wife, try to bring both family together, plz dnt break ur home.I had d same problems too whn I jst got married, I almost lost every thing, bt thank God.
Oga, am sure u saw warning signals when u were dating and decided to wave it off. All the same, fast and pray.
U guys don’t communicate talk to her express ur grievances and tell her how she makes u feel. I guess u guys dated before marriage
Pray for your wife and lovingly talk to her
Keep her there and take a second wife. Pls do not think of divorcing any. Polygamy solves all marital problems.
Oga its well with you. They say the bad guys always meet the good girls and vise visa. So its obvious you wife is a woman who is suffering from insecurity so its affecting how she relate with you. Pray for her and talk to her. If there is any1 you know that can talk to her maybe you can call the persons attention to it as well. May God grant you peace in your marriage.
Pls let her watch the programme on Silver bird TV every Sunday by 1.30pm. You guys need to go for counselling…one on one counselling for your marriage as well. See a 3rd party who isn’t biased towards either of you.
sit her down n tell her u almost giving up on d rel n u need u guys to work things out.if possible u guys cn see a counsellor.n keep praying. for her or u can talk to her mum to counselling her on ur behalf
Oga,pls be patient with her and kip praying for her.
I think wen she sees that all her effort to frustrate you have failed,she will change for good.
all u nid do is get her a bizness, or get her job, dat will kip her busy, am tellin u d rest will be history, an idle is d devil’s workshop, also bak it up wit prayers, dont send her packing oooo
Doesnt she have parents. Dat girl is spoilt. Take her to her parents and let her show some remorse or change b4 bringing her back ad continue to pray 4 her.
May Jesus Fix your homes!
Message.. Prayer is de key n call a family meeting n make sure her family is also present den tell dem wht u wht dem to knw n make ur wife know in deir presence dat if she doesn’t change dats den de end of de marriage, after de meeting both of u shuld go to God in prayer cus my dear even if u marry 2nd wife u will stil hv prblm wt her bt making God de foundation of ur home settles it all.
Oga sir give her orders ok, then let her get a job to keep her busy body busy.
I pity her dats all I can say..!
Poster, for you to come here to complain, it means you are sincere and not cheating on your wife. If possible, tell her that you posted something on the internet and would like her to check it out. Let her see this post and then read peoples’ comments maybe she will sit right. Also something might be missing in your relationship-maybe you both dont communicate on serious matters. Maybe the only time you tell each other how you feel about your issues is when you have more issues thereby using issues to raise old issues and that wont solve anything. Be calm and peaceful enough to call her and have moments of serious chat on what affects you both. you should let her know that you want solution and that is why you are saying it all. If there are areas where you need to make some sacrifices for peace to reign, you should do so-for your own home. God hate divorce except on the ground of fornication. Please pray together and be calm with the woman – she is such a weak (weaker) vessel,
u r only one yr n pls sit her down n talk with her.Marriage is difficult n no one is having it easy.you really need to talk to her first n don’t tell her parents yet they may sympathize with her n your marriage can be in a seriou crisis..I am a victim so beware
How on earth did you end up with her, please you only got one life to live. Please dialogue with her in the presence of both families, if she refuses to change, please pack her one side and move on.
I’m sure this her behaviour didn’t start after marriage.U must have seen d traces but chose to ignore it.I bliv its either there is something abt her dat made u chose her out of other ladies or u jst thought u could handle this aspect of her life.Sit her down n talk 2 her,find out if there is anything abt u that makes her bliv u are cheating on her.About her spending,tell her how u feel abt it.In all l think what is lacking in ur marriage is communication.Above all,talk 2 God abt her behaviour bcs He is d only one dat can change a human being no matter ur effort.
U can send her back to prarent to be well trained
Message..this is serious
Why not try and talk to her let her understand your pain and suffering,
And if she doesn’t listen. threaten her that you will leave her. May be she will change. I pray she does.
Get her a job. She is idle, and has too much free time on her hands!
You are the groom and she is the bride. So, patiently groom her. Get her something to keep her busy. Pray for her and with her. Share your thoughts with her. Let her know your pains and plans. God bless your home.
You are the groom and she is the bride. So patiently groom her. Get her something to keep her busy. Pray for her and with her. Let her know your pains and plans. God bless your home.
Pls show her this post and let her see all the comments. Your wife is very insecure and this could be from previous experiences or family background. She thinks by behaving like this you won’t have the chance to cheat on her. You need to talk with her and let her know your feelings. Pls tell her to go and get a job because idleness gives her time for all this trouble.