Dear MIM Readers: Am I Being A Fool For Supporting My Husband In This Way?
While my husband and I were still dating, like a few months before our marriage, he bought a house and put his younger brother as one of the owners.
After five years of marriage, my husband still hasn’t included my name or our child as a co-owner of the property. Since the said property was financed through mortgage, my husband makes monthly repayments. To enable him keep up with repayments, I have taken full responsibility for our child’s tuition which is very expensive and the upkeep of our home which takes my entire earnings.
My BIL who co-owns the property hasn’t contributed a kobo towards the repayment. After 5 years, I gently asked my husband why we both pay for a property owned by himself and his brother, and why has he not included me as one of the owners? My husband went mad calling me names and saying I have come to cause problems in his family, stating that he pays for the property with his own money, not considering that he is able to keep up payments because I help with fees and other household expenditures. I rarely send money to her parent or siblings because all I earn is being used to support my husband. If you were in my shoes, what would you do?
That man is playing you hmmmm. Shine your eyes oh madam.
You are very ***** to ask that question. Stop paying tuition. Simple
Please to be candid with you start saving for the future(you and your kids) ignore them and when yawa go gas abeg don’t even put mouth for them. He will use his hand n solve the problem once problem starts btwn him n his bro one day
Start saving for your kids n let your man takes up his reponsibility
You ve endured this for five years, so be it. Just simmer down on the responsibilities. Continue paying the school fees if you think you can and add up one more expenses if you can. Leave the rest for him. Don’t shout when he asks why you stopped paying the bills, just calmly let him understand that you have to support your parent and sibling too. One good turn deserves another.
If I were you I would leave him to change the name at his own time. Do you wish him dead tommoro? Why are so many women after names included in property? Haven’t you seen house willed to children still taken by family? Please stop causing problem in your home. If you weren’t supporting in paying bills he would still have find a way to cope. I know your problem is the brothers name that is there but don’t make it an issue please.
Simple.Withdraw and let him take over his responsibilities as a husband and father.That’s d only way he will appreciate your contributions.Ask him for feeding allowance n school fees.Then start saving money for a rainy day.Invest or acquire property.l don’t understand why he got angry when he ought to have given some kind of explanations.Even if he doesn’t include you,ur son should at least be included
There is nothing wrong with her asking her husband to include her name, to secure what is your is not wrong. God forbid if something bad happens to the man, do you know that the brother will take everything from her because her name is not there. How do you expect her to cope with the kids?
Hmmmmmmmmm
Yes, u are. Stop paying anything. When he asks tell him u used ur money for ur siblings’ need. Tomorrow now, his brother will come to claim the house…..mtcheww
Men with their wayo sense….madam start saving somethin for yourself let him be responsible for his child
my dear, start acting like a wife. let him pay the bills that is his job not yours.
You have seen that you’re nowhere in his plans, so start saving and stop all those expenses.
Hmmmmmmm
Take it to God in prayers and it will turn out exactly as you want it to be.
Hmmm, try and invest for your kids o. God forbid, if anything happen to your husband, that property may not go in your favour.
Stop paying the bills ooooo
If ur can still pay the bill then u can continue
Stop paying d fees let him take up his responsibility
U both should sit ad write down each responsibility dat each of u should handle ad nt putting evry houz payments on u,by doin dat he wil understand dat u are shouldering his responsibilities.if he doesn’t mak any changes den ma dear start saving fr u ad ur kids by reducing de houz responsibilities on u in d houz.
strt sending money home.and saving up fr ur own property.