Dear MIM Readers: I’m Pregnant With A Child That Isn’t My Husband’s
Whenever I get pregnant and happen to have sex in my dream, it would lead to a miscarriage eventually.
Recently, I traveled to another state for a visit and spent about a month there. I was in my period when I left and hubby was aware. I returned home three days to my proposed next period (28day cycle). Over there, I had sex with another man, (not proud about it though), and I got pregnant. Since then, I’ve been expecting to have sex in my dream again as usual. I even think about sex every night before dozing off but it won’t happen.
Meanwhile, hubby is beginning to worry about my missed period. He avoids sex with me because he thinks I might have an infection and he’s suggesting I go for a test. Meanwhile, I’ve done a PT and it came out positive. Hubby believes I can’t be pregnant as he’s fully aware of my ovulation days and knew he didn’t touch me when I was ovulating. I must add that we are not desperate for children.
If you were in my shoes, what will you do? Sincerely, what would you have me do? I saw how you guys reacted to the post of a woman who took abortion pills but put yourself in my shoes.
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I am sorry about your situation. No one deserves to be taken for a ride in a relationship. Tell your husband the truth or get an abortion before it’s too late
Much as I won’t want to get spiritual. Its quite obvious your hubby has some form of problems at having children hence each time you get pregnant for him,the dream occurs.Having unprotected sex with someone more so as you are married is very dangerous. My advise to you is to open up to your husband and tell him the truth.Having an abortion is not an option you should consider alone.let your hubby know the truth n face it at once.God will see you through.
Sincerely I will advice you have an abortion. But if you feel that’s not a good idea then tell your family so that they will know how to tell your hubby. Am very sure your hubby suspect you already that’s why he doesn’t want to have sex with you. I know a lot of people will kick against it but I thinks its the best option for now and then ask God to forgive your sins of adultery and abortion(if you chose to do it).
Madam poster dis ur post is complicated and I honestly don’t know wat kinda advice to give you. I only pray dat God forgives you.
Hmmmmmm this one pass me oh. If I were in your shoes, I will have an abortion.
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Just one month and you slept with another man.. Eeii? Jokes aside, but this dreams of yours sounds more spiritual than physical. When dreams like yours begins to cause change in your life, then you need to seek spiritual help. Deliverance must take place. Sounds more like a spiritual marriage to me.
Secondly, about the pregnancy you cannot be sure that it’s not your hubby or the other guy. You don’t need to have sex on your ovulation to concieve. Sperm can stay in a womans body for up to 5 days. I had intercouse with my hubby 5days to my ovulation and got pregnant with my baby girl. You may have ovulated earlier than you think also. So it may or may not be your hubby’s child and the only way to find out is by doing a DNA test, which i believe is out of the question.
Honestly, i don’t condone abortion, unless it is very necessary( health wise) so do what you feel like. I know we all do make mistakes but let the fear of God be your guide.
Wow! this one is so complicated ooo. Should I tell you to.abort to save your marriage or tell ur hubby and face the consequences? Why did you cheat and unprotected at that? Seriously I don’t know but since I am against abortion, I will say to tell your hubby
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Just open up to your husband hopefully he will forgive you and keep the baby
Huuuuunnnnnn, just don’t know where to start from cos in the first instances of u losing your pregnancies after having some dreams you suppose to have seek for spitual help in order to stop it and who might know this confusion of pregnancy might not have occured,never the less if u decide not to let ur husband know naw he wil definitely find out about it later, you just have to summon some courage and let it out so that your conscience will be at peace.#myopinion#
Dunno what to say but u have to let your husband know d whole truth
You have to ease yourself the burden by opening up to your hubby because it’s a load too heavy to carry for you. Chai its a pity.
Whenever you have unprotected sex(ovulation or not)u don’t expect a deep freezer or iPad.U either get STD or pregnancy.Your hubby already suspects some thing so tell him and face the
this is complicated
Wahala dey o. Have u checked yourself very well if u dont ve any spiritual problem. Even ur husband, u sure say him hand dey clean for this miscarriage thing. If both of u re free from this, then u need deliverance. For that baby, do not abort, bcos dat will be another sin. Confess to ur husband and face the fire.
Don’t listen to any1 telling u to tell ur hubby cause he will never forgive u n will send u packing n that’s de greatest disgrace so far, even if he accept u he will never love u n will torment u for life. If I were u(God Forbid) I will abort it immediately. Infact do the needful bt dnt tell dat man de prengnancy wasn’t his own
Nawah this one pass me oh
My advice to u is to openlu tell ur hubby wat happen between u ad d oda man cos somhow he will diffinitely goin to knw abt it wit dis ur condiotion.he might want to divorce u bt atleast he will hav it in his mind dat u told him d truth ursef instead of finding out himsef.just pray to God to help u touch ur hubby’s heart so he can willingly forgive u.
But come to think of dis o, u said wheneva u’re pregnant, u use 2 have sex in dream which lead 2 miscarriage, bt since dis pregnancy no sex in dream n d pregnancy is still there. My dear poster read the handwriting on d wall dont u sence somtin. There are tins ur husby need to tell u.
you just say my mind.
I will never be in ur shoes but. 2 options here its either u abort d baby and save ur marriage or keep d baby and loose ur marriage
U need help… dis is more spiritual related… y don’t u go 4 deliverance….
Wow!should i advice u to abort,no!!should i advice u to tel ur hubby,maybe.whatever lead u to have an external affair,should also make u get prepared for the consequences and carry ur baby.thats al i can say
D truth is that nobody will like to wear that ur shoes cos is an over size. U had sex hopping to hv miscarriage in d dream buh didn’t work out. Ur hubby is a sensitive man who helps in calculation of ur period hmmm waya dey oo. If u go for an abortion u might die considering d fact that d miscarriage didn’t come wen u needed it. Tell ur hubby and face whatever comes from it. Who knows if there is any hand holding ur hubby that doesn’t want him to give birth physically. In fact I really lack words to say
Madam, I will kindly advise you go for a D and C.Terminate that pregnancy with immediate effect. What you did by sleeping with a strange man was an evil itself, so on what grounds are you trying to exempt yourself or is it the baby you want to pardon?You are guilty on all counts so any reason for you to try to seek for an excuse will mean that you are fed up with your husband and in that case you can just pack your things and go and marry your fellow cheat.
One million likes for dis…i totally agree
Honestly honey, if I were you, I would do exactly what you’re doing.. Table it to my MIM sisters for solution!!
No point deceiving yourself any further, confess to your husband that you cheated and be free from guilt. Whether you like it or not, the truth will be revealed one day with mutiplied shame if you refuse telling your husband. You really need a complete spiritual overhauling by giving your life to Jesus Christ and going for special deliverance cause you are most likely to have a spirit husband.
simple! tell hubby
its complicated i advice u dont tell hubby.keep it.
madam operation time to confess
u have to tell him…
u have to tell him…just bear the consequences of ur action.n don’t forget to go for deliverance.Deres something wrong with u.don’t do any abortion oooo.
i honestly dont know how to advice u
what else do u expect us to tel u.u know what is right do it.jst tell him.he might forgive u.
ont know what to say.would just keep reading comments
hmmmnn.dont abort it keep the pregnany.if he forgives i and accepts it den all d best but if he doesnt be content wit ur child.what if u loose ur womb in d process.or what if its a plot from d same one who comes to have sex with u in d dream to cause u a permanent harm.dont forget to go for deliverance.n ur hubby too.
u always have miscarriage anytime u r pregnant for ur hubby but since u r now pregnant for anoda man, no miscarriage and funny enuf, hubby keeps track on ur ovulation and menses; abeg na doctor him be? My friend whose hubby is a doctor doesnt even know when d wife menstruates except she tells him dat she be expecting her menses at anytime. men have so many things on their dat dey can hardly monitor some of these things dat happen within us. As for dis, i think ur hubby know something which u dont know. As for d big issue here,.sin begets sin but whichever way, two things are involved. Confide in ur mum first den either u go for d&c or u have ur baby which will need u to confess to ur husband ur sins and face d shame and punishment of infidelity. But pls, confide in ur mum first. i believe she can guide u. also, go for blood test to know how many weeks have gone with d pregnant. i believe with dat, u will be able to know weda d preg is ur hubby’s or for d danger(d man u cheated on ur hubby with). and pls dis should serve as a lesson to most women. sexual immortality outside marriage is a sin to God talk more infidelity in marriage. women should discipline demselves.
Just go for deliverance concerning sex in the dream, but 4 d pregnancy dn’t know what to say
With my own little contribution/advise, I think you should confess to your husband… I know its not gonna be easy tho but u still have to confess and have your self and mind prepared for what’s gonna happen next!! I pray that God will give you the strength to face it
keep the pregnancy, let ur husband know. u might loose ur marriage but u have to do the right thing
My dear no judgment here, but first what prompt you into having sex. With another when you. Ve a husband? It means ur husband is not enough for you. Why don’t you tell him the truth? Don’t let anyone deceive to have an abortion all in the name of saving your marriage. The fact is that you stepped out of ur marriage for a reason. And you didn’t even think of having protected sex knowing fully well you are not in your safe period. Take the pregnancy to the true father. Do what’s right by your unborn child. And don’t question God
Just one month and u misbehave. Pls tell ur husband now o and luk 4 a way to handle it b4 anoda person wil tel him
#am #speechless …. poster,no abortion,carry your cross
honestly this matter is complicating ooo,i myself am confused.. but madam u fuck up oo
Tell your man you cheated on him and carrying another man’s child. How could you stoop so low?
Don’t abort, let the truth set up free
Ur husband may ve some problem dat u dnt know about dat is d cause of d previous miscarriage,so tell him,keep ur child,it might be d only child u will ve in life,wen u dnt give birth,ur husband will still kick u out,d earlier he does so with ur child,d better bcos he will do subsequently wen he discover dat d baby is nt his.
Speechless
Just quietly terminate that pregnancy before it progresses any further
First of all U must ask for God’s forgiveness,concerning d dream it’s a spiritual husband which doesn’t wat u to remain married,daz why d devil quickly came into ur home in oder to destroy ur marriage.pls visit a strong n clean man of God for deliverance.if not even afta the abortion u won’t still bear children for dat man, but if u dare sleep wit anoda man dat hasn’t paid anytin on ur head u’ll definitely take him b/c d spiritual man wants u to belongs to him alone,he’s spiritually married to u.go for prayers n fasting afta ur decision with d unwanted pregnancy.
To start with, either Your hubby has a spiritual wife who does not want his physical wife to conceive or you have a spiritual husband who does not want you to conceive for your hubby physically. The implication is that spiritually and even physically your life is in danger , this spiritually being that does not want you to conceive physically May have possessed this other man you cheated on your hubby with ,that is why you took in.you need to go for deliverance and tell your hubby about this pregnancy.please do not go for an abortion because you may not come out of that d and c room alive. my candid opinion please.
This could end your marriage. Have the abortion.
hmmmm,dis is serious.please dnt tell ur hubby.
I have two questions, first, did u deliberately travel to meet with another guy? Secondly, did u also deliberately get pregnant for this guy to know if what is happening previously with d other pregnancies is cos your husband was involved? If these answers are yes, then tell your husband the truth so that he seeks spiritual solution. However, u didn’t have to sleep around to prove that. Having sex in dreams is not good, its either u or your husband has a spiritual spouse. You should have sought spiritual solution other than in another man’s arms, don’t abort cos things might go terribly wrong.
it’s complicating. inasmuch i dont support abortion, i wouldn’t advice u keep the pregnacy
If you are a christian, seek God’s forgiveness and also gather the strength to forgive yourself. I will also urge you not to abort that child, report yourself to a mature and spiritual leader, tell him everything you have observed with your miscarriages and your present condition,he will guide you on the right step to take. Let the leader be someone that your husband respects, the leader will also play a major role in the process of you confessing to your husband, please be ready for whatever reaction your husband displays, he has the right to be angry with you for cheating on him regardless of your reasons. After you have prayerfully and successfully obtained your husband’s forgiveness with the help of your pastor, you can then seek spiritual help together as a couple to put an end to the series of miscarriages. your husband also needs to know that you guys need to form a formidable force to be able to fight the one common enemy that you guys have, only then you will overcome.
Hi dear,
This is quite serious , you see. I would not tell my hubby if it were me, do you still have a mother ? Confide in her. I will never judge you for the mistake bcos it almost happened to me when I travelled for a week and saw my ex. Discuss this with your mum bit I would have an abortion quickly before anyone notices.
As per your dreams, please see a pastor or your religious leader for deliverance ( if you are not a xtian).
All the best.
Hmmmmm
To be honest. If I were you,I won’t even think twice before getting rid of the pregnancy since you are not in dire need of children. Protect your marriage and your dignity. Mostly if you husband falls in d category of good men. Most women saying don’t abort will be d fir a t to laugh at you when your hubby throws you out for cheating. It will be their topic of conversation for years. Even your own family will insult you and your child later. Abeg abort it. My humble opinion
Wow,comment plenty today oo. God forbid,i cannot be in your shoe. Infact,I will suggest you tell your husband, but come to think of it,if it is the opposite they will say that men always like to cheat. Anyway, pray to God.
If you tell your husband, consider your marriage over. You should do this if you know you are ready to walk out of it. As for your husband, I think there is something going on spiritually that he knows about. Maybe he has a hand in this. But you must pray over it. Abortion is the least of any idea you should have in your head.Don’t do it.
Pls don’t about that baby oo. Tell your husband and ask for forgiveness from him and God. Your husband might ask u to leave his house or he might forgive u but whatever dat happens pls don’t abort dat baby in your womb. The Lord will see you through.
Hmmmm! It is not normal for a man to be cautious of when his wife is ovulating when his not desperate for a child. What has he done to help you after dreaming and having miscarriage? I think his hiding something from you and still suspect his aware your pregnant. I will advice you terminate it.