Dear MIM Readers: My Husband’s Unhygienic Habits Are Driving Me Nuts! How Can I Make Him Change?
Please how do you deal with a dirty husband? My husband is the best husband ever but he’s dirty; sometimes I feel that’s the price I have to pay for having a loving and caring husband. My hubby can wear one boxer for 7 days and stay two days without bathing. He hasn’t shaved his armpit and pubic hair since June! It’s safe to say he baths only on work days.
I have tried nagging him, talking to him and stylishly picking up his dirty boxers while he’s bathing so he’ll wear a fresh one. None worked! He tells me it’s embarrassing for me to be talking to him about it, that he’ll handle it.
A fortnight ago, I woke him up around 11p.m. and reminded him that he hadn’t had his bath and he said it’s late. This is really killing my sex life with him. I have just learned to ignore him but for how long? He’s so bushy down there too and he expects me to go down on him (of course I don’t).
Initially, when we got married, he was always fond of not using deodorant and I used to be embarrased to go to his office because it was so bad that I wouldn’t even want the car AC on but now that has changed. I succeeded in instilling the habit of using deodorant in him. It has become part of him and he even uses perfumes now. However, he seems stuck with these dirty habits of his. He’s the perfect husband and I’d choose him all over again but how do I get him to drop his dirty habits?
Na wa oh. This one pass me abeg.
He now uses perfume all credit to u rite? My dear do the best for him I bet he will adapt soon. Sorry
This one tire me oh my dear all I have to say is keep it up with the good ones he will learn
Jst be patent when he need to change is boxer bring a clean one and politely ask him to change when it time to shave volunteer to shave him jst be patient most times our spouses can really get on our nerves jst take it one day at a time
With time he will change
Keep washing his cloths and boxers..On weekends let him hv hs bath before breakfast..
Keep talking to him in love i believe he will change
Make the corrections with love.Soak his boxers in water when he is having his bath and keep a fresh one for him.Keep his bath water,pick his towel and inform him his bath water is ready.Let him know u are not moving an inch until he enters the bathroom or better still both of you should bath together(it’s more fun n romantic that way).Buy a shaving stick,tell him to lie down that you want to shave him.If he is not comfortable with the idea,u tell him to do it himself now or allow you do it for him.You can both enter the bathroom afterwards and have fun.Make it all fun instead of nagging and with time,he just might change to please you.You could do these during weekends if you are working
Lovely tips
You can make hi. Change it all depends on how you approach him. If u cld succeed in convincing him use deodorant den you can also change his odad dirty habit.
Know that he’s been that way probably all his life, so it wouldn’t take a day or two to help him curb those habits.
About the bushiness down there… Let him understand that you will never go down on him down there if he doesn’t shave and look clean.And when he does that, throw yourself at him for like three days. That will make him know that he attracts you sexually when he’s clean and not bushy down there. Most men loves sex, and i’m sure he’ll do that to get you all over him.
As for the boxers, he’s a grown man. Sit him down and have a real talk with him. Make him promise( if he’s the type that keeps his promises). Be sure to be helping him out too by putting clean boxers in the bathroom for him when he forgets to pick one.. It’s a gradual process.
Since he does not like bathing, do your best to make sure he takes his bath every night. You can create the habit of taking your bath together before bed. Let it be some kind of family tradition. So that even if he does not bath in the morning, he won’t be smelling bad during the day. Do it calmly and keep talking to him.
na wah ooooo. its complicated! maybe you should be giving hot water to bath. cos honestly i cant even stand a sticking ans smelling guy for a minute not to talk of life time.
good advice’s has been given,its all upto u to correct him
haba,that guy no try o he should atleast bath n change boxerz
Remember it takes time to form a habit so also does it take time to unlearn them. So don’t give up on him cause that’s why you are in his life as his helper(wife). Don’t ever nag him at all rather keep encouraging him to shower, also volunteer to help him wash his boxer and shave the shaveables. May God engrace you with the virtue of patience.
I don’t really have much to say cos they have said it all, try to be patent with him always correct him with love and I believe with time everything will be fine
Keep talking to him
He can’t change more than he’s been so far, the dirt has gone deep into his system.
Kip shoutng ‘CHANGE’ dosnt oga knw we ar n d ‘Change’ era?
Nt 2 wory dalyn..most pple av said it all, jst kip talkng 2 him wt love n patience. One day he wil realiz ‘Obun ori aye wa’
@ poster anytime u want to have your bath, pls do drag him along, wash his undies for him, make sure u soak each as he’s removing to avoid wearing them again, help him trim his armpit & ‘under’ with time he will get use to it
hmmm, dirty get grade. This one na A1.
Thats not fair. What u ended up doing is break her the more about her choice of hubby.
With love&patience+endurance u wil make him dance to ur tune of correction.may d peace&grace of God uphold ur marriage.
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Chai! This one pass my power ooo. I cannot stand dirty people but didn’t you notice while you were dating?
if u could make him use d perfume den he can also change dese habbits just b patient n keep correctin him.