Woman Laments Over Hubby’s Reluctance to Start a Family, Seeks Advice
A 21-year-old lady frustrated about her husband’s reluctance to start a family took to Reddit to share her heartache and seek advice, claiming he feels used for sperm and she feels used for sex.
Read her post below:
I feel like I am going crazy. I am crying at least once a week that my husband does not want to have children with me. Yet. It’s always been soon dear. Or next year. And I am at my wits end. I want at least three children for a fact. I’ve been changing diapers since I was three. I have been looking after my sisters since I was four. Not entirely legal but it was fact. I am 21 and my husband is 31, and he has a ~$80k year salary. We owe normal amounts of mortgage, have normal amounts of credit card debt ($500), and we go on vacations bi yearly to colorado or Florida. He wants to wait until we are more financially stable.
This is killing me. We are having fights about this. It kills my sex drive when he says he doesn’t want to finish inside of me. Instant turn off. He feels used for sperm, I feel used for sex. Vicious cycle.
And the only conclusion is that I will continue to resent him until I find a baby daddy (don’t underestimate the power of hormones) for myself (jk) or he resents me for all the pressure I put on him.
Please I’m begging all single, married, with or without children men and women to please give me some advice.
What would you advise?
Must he have heaven on earth before he have kids. I think he’s having some issues. Talk to him to open up to you and prepare to see an expert coz there could be a medical or psychologically issues going on with him.
Hmmmm. My advice to her is to pin him down so strong anything he wants to liberate
I think both of them need to talk as couple and reach an agreement
The girl is too young to be anxious while the man isn’t serious but looking for excuse.
This is serious!! This wan no be laughing matter, the husband needs serious help
Hmmmmmmmmmm. And what does she do or own to support the man because I see her listing things he has and does.
I think he has a secret.
This man are u sure dt ur ok
This man is hiding something tell him to be open to u
Involve both family simple or u move on
Nawah
I feel your pain my lady. I think you need to be patient with him. Both of you should see a counsellor or someone that can help medically and psychologically. Some men actually feel dey need to be very financially buoyant before starting a family but the gift of a child also comes with blessings from d giver of children. So pls be patient. Let’s hope he will be convinced
I don’t know what to say. I am not sure I can give a reasonable advice now
Why getting married then,abnormal pple everywea,hop dea is no secret
some thing aint right.y not involve botj parents
I think ur hubby is scared to have children all u need to do is to have a serious chat with him.
When you were dating/courting, what did you agree on concerning children? Talk it over and try to reach an agreement. Involve both families or mature and trusted friends/counsellors to help you reach an agreement.
Has the man turn to an igbo man that has to wait till he gets money b4 he married,since he has decided to get married why don’t he decides to have children…I think its psychology
Maybe his not fertile and doesn’t want u to know,don’t quarrel much just keep talking to him while u set up a business for urself
Involve both family oo..He’s hiding something.
I believe he’s hiding something.
i think the man is hiding something, he may hv kids/family or mayb sterile