Cool Ways to Keep Things Smoking Hot in Your Marriage

Chiomah Momah

Marriage is wonderful, but it also takes a lot of work…sometimes hard work! So, we all need to do our bit to keep things smokin’ HOT! Get some cool ideas…

1. Date Night

Set aside a day to go out with your significant other. It doesn’t have to be somewhere expensive, as long as both of you are together and enjoying each other’s company. If you don’t have a nanny and going on a date is cumbersome, try finding someone to babysit fortnightly. Relive your courtship days!

2. Lunch Or Breakfast Dates

The aim is to spend as much time together as you can. If getting a night alone together is a problem, try to maximize your day. If you work in the same area, you can arrange to meet up somewhere to have a cup of coffee or share lunch.

3. Surprise, Surprise!

Nothing stops you from springing a surprise on your spouse for no particular reason. A cute idea for a surprise could be slipping a note with some words of love or encouragement into your man’s suit jacket or briefcase in the morning, when he’s not looking. He’ll be thrilled when he finds it later in the day, and likely throw his own surprise.

4. Take a Vacay!

A vacation with your loved one is always a good way to relax and rediscover each other. Again, it doesn’t have to be anywhere exotic or expensive, so affordability should never be an excuse. If a week in Sao Tome will break the bank, why not try spending a few nights at a nice hotel in your city?

Also, the children should not be used as an excuse. If Grandma or Aunty isn’t available to babysit, there must be a friend who won’t mind watching your precious little ones for a night or two. Whatever it takes, make sure you have quality time together, with no interruptions!

5. Take The Lead

Studies show that men love it when their women initiate sex. Try not to be the proverbial ‘goody two shoes’ who waits for hubby to stretch out his hands in the dark. Instead, surprise him by getting some sexy lingerie and initiating things in the bedroom.

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6. Do An Activity Together

You could sign up at the local gym, start playing board games together, or decide to start taking long weekend walks. Apart from its health benefits, doing stuff together strengthens your bond, and before you know it, the dying embers will glow once again.

7. Go Back In Time

Remember your favourite spots when you guys were dating? Going back to those places will bring back happy memories of butterflies dancing in your bellies, and lots of giggles and smiles.

8. Write A Love Note

Take time to write a letter to your loved one telling him or her all the stuff that makes them special and unique. Send as a text or an e-mail, but to make it old-fashioned and extra-special, write it by hand!

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9. Show Appreciation

Everyone loves to be appreciated. From little to grand gestures, show your spouse that you appreciate his efforts. Showing appreciation may motivate your spouse to do more.

10. Stay friends

Start with the basics and rebuild or strengthen your friendship. Start by communicating better on issues and asking each other’s opinions before making a decision. Open communication is one of the most important aspects of a successful relationship.

11. Forgive

Learn to forgive; forgiveness is key to staying in love.

12. Be Expressive

Love is a language that needs to be learned. Take the effort to communicate love to your partner in words and deeds. Never make assumptions about anything and you will find that your spouse will appreciate it. Apart from verbal communication, learn to speak your spouse’s love language, as actions often speak louder than words.