Dear MIMers: Hubby’s Oath With His Late Wife is Ruining Our Lives
Recently, I read a post about a woman whose husband asked to take an oath with him. It inspired me to share my own experience and the pains I’m going through now.
My hubby took an oath with his first wife. She was already several months pregnant before they got married. Unfortunately, the marriage did not last. She died two days after giving birth to their baby girl – barely one month after their wedding.
My hubby was disturbed because of the covenant between them. However, two years later, he got another lady pregnant. His dad insisted he cannot marry the lady because she is a Muslim. The reason for his objection is
best known to him because my mother-in-law is also a Muslim and the lady’s father works in the same office as my father-in-law though my father-in-law is a senior colleague.
Throughout her pregnancy, my hubby was terribly sick and thought he would die. He was sick for seven months and could not even attend his baby’s naming ceremony. After he was discharged, the lady brought the baby to his house but things soon took a sad turn as the baby started falling ill incessantly. My mother-in-law subsequently sought spiritual help and she was told to go back and ask her son to confess what he had done.
Meanwhile, he met me and I agreed to marry him, oblivious of his ordeal. I only realized we couldn’t leave together as a couple when I got pregnant and was told to save my life and his second child’s by staying away from his house.
Since his late wife’s death 5 years ago, hubby has spent a lot of money on pastors and alfas just to break the oath but there’s been no positive change. One alfa even told him to wait for five years before remarrying but this month makes it five years already and nothing has changed for the better. We are still looking for a way out and I’m now 27 weeks gone.
Hubby has been telling me he will have his child under his roof even if it costs him all his savings because he loves me some much but I’m scared of what might happen. Whenever he raises the topic, he kneels down and begs me to accept to live with him. He’s always the first to say sorry whenever we argue just to allow peace to reign. I have made him understand the situation is not easy on me at all but we’re both helpless currently.
If only he didn’t take any oath but what’s done is done. I keep praying that God has mercy on him. A lot have happened which I can’t reveal here. What can we do? What’s the way out of this dire situation? Should I risk moving in with him and hope God will have mercy? I’m scared and confused.
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I don’t understand the rationale behind taking such oats. People forget that things go awry, people die, marriages end besides what oats is bigger than the one taken before God on his altar? Dear poster I pray for vindication for you and your husband.
I don’t think you should move in yet for the sake of your baby and yourself. Keep praying and trusting for all to be clear and leading to the right place, but wisdom is profitable at the same time.
Hmmmmmm… May God intervene speedily in your home.
what the use of all these stupid oat
There IS power in the blood of Jesus. Get rooted in Gods word, Locate a scripture that applies to your situation. Seat on it in God’s presence. There is no oath, curses and covenant that can’t be broken. Dear poster, make sure you deal with this severely in the place of prayers before you take that move with him. Also get legally married in the church to get God involved in your union. Keep your faith alive. There is no impossiblity with God. Know this: miracles are the deliberate act of God provoke by the absolute faith of men. You both should use your knee to get your expected result.
Blood oath is demonic and shld be discouraged. May God intervene in ur case
My dear go for prayers so dt d orth will be destroy then u cn go ahead ad marry him
Take him to a genue man of God so dt he will be seperate from his wife orth
Hmmm this is sad. He needs to break whatever covenant he had with his wife spiritually. That is the only way he can be saved. Look for a living church, surrender your lives to Jesus, undergo deliverance and he will be free
Lord have mercy on this couples it’s well
My dear don’t to be confused, run to God, he is the only one that can make a way. the bible say the kingdom of God suffereth violence and the violence takes it by force. Evil force do exist o, pls avoid moving into his house, forget about love now, fight for yourself and your unborn baby, clothe yourself with the Armour of God. let him go for deliverance…….am saying it again the devil has power, but we have a bigger power in GOD. only God can delivery him
What’s the oat about?
All u need is seek the face of God,look for a bible believing God and genuine men of God to intercede for you .your husband needs to be deeply involved in the intercession and also be ready to surrender his life to Christ but pending when all these is done ,don’t move in with him yet ,pls for the sake of yourself and your unborn child ,If your husband truely loves you as u claim ,he should understand your stand .pls apply wisdom.
Hmmmmm
Dear poster, don’t move in yet. Your hubby needs a powerful man of God to break d covenant. U can tk him to Mountain of fire.
do not move in yet all you need to break the course is prayer.