Dear MIMsters: Considering This, Was I Wrong To Refuse Hubby’s Request That My Stepson Live With Us?

My hubby had a boy before we met and didn’t disclose it to me. Two weeks to our wedding, my friend told me that he has a child and I confronted him. He admitted it and when I asked why he didn’t tell me, he said he was afraid of losing me.

He begged me and I forgive him. He then begged me that after our weeding, the boy would live with us and I said no problem. However, after like a year, he said his mother refused to release him and I told him I don’t blame her, that I wouldn’t release mine too.

Just recently, hubby told me he saw Indian hemp in his bag when he came to visit and when he asked him, he told him that he was using it for his hair. My hubby however said he doesn’t believe him.

Now, his stepfather has asked his mother to return him to his dad because of how much he has been misbehaving. His mother called my hubby and told him that she wants the boy to start living with us. Hubby called me and sought my opinion and I told him that he can’t stay with us, that he should let him stay with his dad (my father-in-law) because my mother-in-law travelled to stay with us for now.

It’s not that I hate the boy but I’m afraid of him. He is 19 years old now and I have 3 girls aged 10, 8 and 6. I’m afraid he will pollute my kids. When I told hubby that, he didn’t talk; he only said okay but I’m scared maybe I sounded harsh by saying that.

Please mummies, did I sound bad or what should I have done or said. Like I previously said, I don’t hate him but his attitude scares me.