Dear MIM Readers: I Regret My Marriage. What Would You Do If You Were In My Shoes

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I got married 2 years ago in my final year in school to a well of educated business man but now I regret it. The man I knew while we were dating isn’t the same man now. He has a bad mouth I noticed is towards me alone.

5 months after our wedding, I took in. Then I started started noticing my husband behaving strange.

In the 1st stage of my pregnancy, I craved for food and drinks, though I controlled it. He bought some cans of drinks, put them in the fridge and I took one. When he came back and saw I’d taken one, he shocked me by saying, “keep eating what you don’t know where the money came from.” I got annoyed and wept, but he never apologised,

A month after, while my husband was sleeping, a text message on hubby’ phone. I never go through his phone but I read this one. It read, “My Body is so cold and hungry for You, I can’t wait to have you again.” I deleted it but copied out the number. Confronted him the next day calmly. We both agreed to call the number but he secretly called the girl to warn her.

I started noticing that same number calling him too frequently. I called the girl once and advised her to stay clear my marriage. Till date, my husband has never apologised. Instead, he stopped sharing the bedroom with me, whenever there’s a dispute, he won’t drop feeding allowance, even in my pregnancy. I couldn’t endure the starvation and had to tell my mum to send me food stuffs so I could feed.

One day, he came home late. I was horny due to abstainance on his part. I begged him to make love to me, he came too quick onlike him. Then I found 2 used condoms in his shirt pocket. I confronted him that midnight, he looked guilty but didn’t offer an explanation. I cried till 6 a.m but my husband till date doesn’t think he owes me any explanation.

I finally told his elder brother’s wife and my mum who came in to settle the issue. He told my mum that he wanted me to leave his house without giving a reason.

I told him I will leave after delivering my baby. My baby is now over a year. I am 101% sure my hubby never loved me. Recently, we had an arguement, when he told me again that I should keep eating food in stead of looking for a job. Meanwhile, I haven’t even gone for my NYSC. In annoyance I told him, God whom I serve will reverse the case for me. I told him I will feed him since feeding and caring for my needs are his worst nightmare. Not that I forced him to marry me and he’s treating me badly. So, I managed to do a networking biz with the money I saved from the money he gives me for clothes. Yet, he keeps loaning money from me every now until I stopped giving him.

Even when his own father visited, I used my own money to prepare feed him. I got so annoyed and gave my husband a piece of my heart and asked for a divorce as I am fed up.

He only gives me 30k once in 5 months for clothings, toiletries and hair. He doesn’t take me out for functions except for family meetings.

He never compliments my new looks. I am tired spending all day at the saloon trying to look good for a man who will never acknowledge it. Honestly, I dont feel like his wife. I feel like my years are wasted in his house. I’ve searched to see if I am actually doing something wrong. I read and comment on posts here and I must say some women are lucky in life. There’s no communication in my marriage because he chooses to keep mute over issues and never talk about them. Honestly, I regret this marriage. What would you do if you were in my shoes?