Dear Mimsters: I have made my decision but….

My hubby is not based abroad. He visited 3 months ago and travelled back early last month. I have always suspected he is cheating on me, both here and over there but when I ask him, he always denies it. Sometimes, this ends with a quarrel because I hate cheating and he lies too much. He has even beaten me twice because of this until my brother warned him never to try it again. Still, I had to make a decision.

I have never cheated on him. I am 100% faithful to him and he knows. He has never for once accused me of cheating.

After he went back early last month, we had no major issue not until 2 weeks ago I noticed he has started again with his cheating lifestyle. A white lady even inboxed me, telling me how my hubby has been pressuring her to date him but she rejected his offer after she found out he is a married man who claims to be a single dad.

I asked my hubby and he denied as usual. We had a huge arguement on the phone. He called me names and went as far as saying that I am free to leave the marriage if I wished to and that I am a fool if I stay after everything. I insulted him as well because he is fond of insulting me whenever I question him about his cheating lifestyle.

Now, I have decided to end this marriage but my family is against it. They are all saying I should forgive him and give the marriage another chance. We have a son who is a little of 2 years and I am currently 2months pregnant.

Our pastor also advised me not to move out. Hubby’s elder brother also said the same thing. The man has been begging me not to leave yet, but wait for my hubby to return, if at all I need a separation. But these people don’t understand what I’m passing through. I don’t think they have any idea of how this abuse affects me.

I told hubby that I am leaving him and he said I should do as I wish. I asked him to pay me back the money he’s owing me he before I leave and he has. I have no work for now because he told me not to work. I asked him for a monthly upkeep for his son and his unborn child as an agreement based on our separation.

I am not ending this marriage just because he cheats and lies but I am leaving because the lies, cheating, insults and verbal abuse are too much, yet he shows no sign of remorse or repentance. Not every woman can tolerate what I have tolerated. I have tried my best to make the marriage work. I have prayed, cried, endured but I cannot take it anymore. I loved him but no more. I am no more happy in this marriage. I feel like being on my own.

Like I said, I want to leave but his elder brother and my family are asking me to forgive and stay. I am confused and tired of this marriage. These people are not helping matters.

I need some mature advice. Thank you.