Dear MIMsters: How Do I Handle this Unhappy Marriage I Have Found Myself In?

I have been married since 2015. I earn more than my husband which makes me take responsibility for my care and that of my family even sometimes his own family too. I am in a unhappy marriage.

This is because my husband beats me over every unnecessary thing and abuses me verbally in public. Even when I try to caution him, he raises his voice. I live in the kind of house called face to face, so every neighbor makes jest of us but he doesn’t seem embarrassed.

The first time he did it, I was 5 months pregnant with our son and he bullied me to the extent that I almost suffered a miscarriage. This was all because his younger sister who has been living with us since we got married said she was looking for a novel. He told me to call my mom around past 10 in the night to ask one of my siblings who came visiting earlier that day for it. I told him I can’t call my mom at that time of the night and that I’m sure my sister can never take the book as she is not used to reading Yoruba novels. He beat me that I was rude to him and his family. (Mind you, his sister was just 15 years old then.)

The recent beating I had was because he gave his sister my phone. (He uses my phone because his phone is damaged but I have a lot of things on the phone’s memory card ). He beat me almost to the point of death because I asked him why he gave my phone to his sister without informing me. Meanwhile, he knows I am on injections for malaria cause I have been ill for days.

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I have always been silent all this while because of my son but now it’s getting too much for me to bear cause each time he beats me always because of one family member or the other. Once, he told my mother-in-law about it but instead she abused me that I’m competing with her children. My husband is the first child and only male of their family. Please mothers in the house what would you do to advise me to do?