Dear MIMsters: I Rejected My On and Off Boyfriend’s Proposal. Am I Being too Rigid?
I have known this guy for close to four years now. He has been asking me out since we got to know each other but only started dating in February last year. I refused initially to date him because I was involved in another relationship then. He is well to do now but wasn’t this rich when I first met him. Please read my story and tell me if I’m being too rigid.
We had both worked together at a small firm and now we are working together in a big firm and earning so much. He told me his girlfriend broke up with him cause he was broke when I inquired about her. Only for this girl to call me a few weeks into the relationship to warn me to stay off her man. I was shocked, angry and scared, so I denied being in a relationship with him and told her that we were just friends. She didn’t believe but kept insisting.
Later that day, she called me to apologise and all that. She narrating her life ordeal to me and tried to convince me to leave this guy for reasons best know to her. I told this guy about the call and he apologised. I forgave him and we reconciled after he had some issues that needed my attention.
Fast forward to this year, I decided to leave him as I have had enough of him especially his cheating attitude. A friend told me he has two other girlfriends apart from the one who called me the other time, which he denied and is still denying. After giving him a piece of my mind and staying out of communication with him for 4 months, he has returned, telling me of his plans to travel abroad and start up a lecturing job.
Now, he wants me to get pregnant for him before leaving the country and plans to take me to join him when he gets settled. I have told him off but he is still hanging around trying to be responsible and feigning a change of attitude. Some of my friends said I should give him a chance only if he goes to see my people as regards marriage, but I don’t think it is right for him to throw the pregnancy card at me. It only shows he doesn’t love me but wants me for the pregnancy. What if he ends up leaving me and my child to suffer? My friends and sisters think I am being too rigid. Please, I need your candid opinion on this.
My sister,why would u get pregnant for someone whom you are not married to?is pregnancy any assurance of marriage?..i do not like the fact that u are even considering it. Throw that thought out.,secondly,this guy is a serial cheater,unstable,dishonest and u fink that’s the kind of man u want to father your child? You said he’s feigning being changed,u knw already,so why do u wanna get pregnant for him?…pls make ur stand,and tell ur friends that its ur life….i pray God helps u.
dnt mk d mistake of getting preggy fr him……dnt answer him
You are not rigid oh. In short, you are very smart. Please run away from a guy like that he is no good.
There’s nothing like rigid here, marriage comes before pregnancy and not the other way round. I don’t even think this person is a responsible fella from your description of him.