Dear MIMsters: I Thought He Really Loved Me, Now I Want Out After Having a Child

Please do not judge me for I am not perfect. I am 28-years-old and I have been dating this man I thought really loved me for the past 9 years. This is because though we wanted to get married, my dad would not allow it due to religious differences, and besides that, I am his only girl child.

After all said and done, my dad finally died and my guy and I found ourselves together again. Now, the other member of his family are standing against our desire to be together with the excuse that an outsider can’t be his first wife.

Due to the pressure, he married another woman he never dated nor loved parted ways again. I went to Port Harcourt, but returned months after when my mum took ill. I came back to find out that this guy has been a pillar of support to my family, so I could not say no when he asked me out again. We dated, then he proposed and I accepted to be his second wife because I love him.

Some months after, my mum died. Again, I was so shattered and confused but he never stopped helping me. He supported me to go back and finish with my education. In school, I found out I was pregnant. I told  him and he asked me to keep it and I agreed.

I stopped school to focus on my pregnancy and the baby with a promise he will send me back to school later. Now, my baby is 3 years old and he is not even planning to go see my family. He didn’t even try to send me back to school.

Last month, I travel to see my godmother and I followed her to her church where a man of God gave me a prophecy. He said that I should leave him and return to Warri that the church will help me look for any mini job so I can start up a new life. My problem is that I can’t leave my baby with the stepmum and my guy will not allow me go. I did not tell him what the man of God said.

He is a politician who visits herbalist a lot. Please help me get out of this dilemma as I am running mad here and do not know what to do. My family has neglected me because of him. He is my first love and I have never had an affair with any other man.