This Story of a 10 Year Old Student Abandoned by his Father Will Break Your Heart
Life has been so unbearable for 10-year-old Isaac Oghenekewe, a primary four student of Best Brains Nursery and Primary School, Ede, Osun State, who has been living without a father for quite a while.
It was gathered that Isaac usually burst into tears whenever his school friends basked in their fathers’ attention, especially on their birthdays.
On some occasions, his friends reportedly teased him, saying that his father was not responsible.
According to school authorities, the ridicule had taken its toll on his learning, adding that efforts to address his poor academic performance had been in vain.
In a chat with Punch, Isaac, who lives with his mother and grandmother, said that he longed to see his father.
”I don’t know my father; I want to see him. My friends in school ask me where my father is; I tell them he doesn’t live with us. They say my father has never come to pay my school fees or take me to school. They laugh at me, which makes me cry. I want to know my daddy,” he said.
It was also learnt that Isaac’s 32-year-old mother, Omolewa Ashiru, and the father, Lawrence Oghenekewe, a civil engineer, started dating sometime in 2005 in Sango Ota, Ogun State. After a few months, Ashiru got pregnant.
Following a futile attempt to get the pregnancy aborted, Ashiru relocated to Ibadan, Oyo State, where she gave birth to Isaac on October 13, 2006.
The grandmother, Adedoyin Ogunnowo, a food seller, said Lawrence eventually came to Ibadan on the eighth day for Isaac’s naming ceremony, after which he left and had not returned for his child.
”My daughter (Ashiru) went to work in Lagos in 2005 and stayed with her uncle. When I learnt that she was pregnant, I went to Lagos and she took me to Lawrence. He wanted her to abort the pregnancy, but a doctor that he took her to said it was risky. She was four months pregnant then.
I brought her to Ibadan, where I was living then. Lawrence didn’t show up. It was during the naming that he came around and named the child Isaac. That was the last time he asked after his son. I called and begged him to come, but he said he was very busy at work. I stopped calling him three years ago,” she explained.
Ogunnowo, explained that due to the meagre and unstable income of her daughter, she had been largely responsible for the upkeep of the boy.
Furthermore, she stated that Isaac’s quest to know his father increased by the day due to pressure from his peers, adding that his school management advised that he should be reunited with his father.
”He complained that his friends laughed at him. I didn’t take it seriously until his class teacher met with me a few weeks ago and said the issue had affected his performance in school.
Isaac was initially going to Federal Poly Staff School, Ede. He quit because we could no longer afford his school fees. In his present school, we pay his school fees in installments,” she added.
Isaac’s mother, Ashiru, lamented that Lawrence only promised to get back to her whenever she requested money for their son’s school fees.
”The burden is too much. I sell drinks and confectionery at event centres. The little money I make is not enough to take care of him,” she stated.
Isaac’s class teacher, Oluseyi Olorode, who spoke on the telephone to newsmen, confirmed that his poor academic performance was due to the mockery from his friends, adding that he had to inform the school authorities after his efforts to address the situation proved abortive.
”Sometimes, when lessons are ongoing, he will put his head on his desk and his eyes will be red. I also noticed that his performance in class has been getting worse. When I asked him what was wrong, he said he wanted to see his father.
The grandmother and the mother were invited by the school management. They were advised to search for his father. That is a major factor affecting his performance. He has zeal to learn.”
Lawrence, however said he was also eager to see his son, but decided to stay away for spiritual reasons. He admitted that he had failed in his responsibility as a father and promised to meet with Isaac by July or August.
”I am ready to take up the responsibility. His mother and I have been talking. My greatest surprise is that the grandmother is pushing it to this level. I have told the mother that with my little strength, I will see what I can do. I will take up my responsibility.
Spiritually, I have my reasons for not talking to the grandmother. I don’t have any problem with the boy and his mother. But I thank God I have the heart of God; I have put everything behind me. When I saw his picture, I was dumbfounded because I have not seen him for a long time. I want to see him and by July or August, I will do that. But if they want the best for the boy, attacking the father is not the best option.
I am not doing any salary work. I work in Port Harcourt as a contractor; it is the payment of a work that I did that is keeping me in Lagos.”
Photo credit: Punch
This is too sad. I feel so sorry for him.
sperm donor
I have read this story over and over again and am really upset. Why punish the child because of an irresponsible sperm donor, he never wanted this beautiful gift of God in the first place. Why are we mothers silent on this. What kind of a school will accept bullies and refuse to discipline them. Why torture a fellow class mate because of an irresponsible father who has contributed nothing since his existence. Why bring up pains and sorrow to the mum and grandmother. Tomorrow when the boy becomes somebody the idiot of a man will surface to plead for forgiveness. The school Authority should step up its act. Orphans do go to school too