Dear MIMsters: How I Handled My Roommate Who Has an Entitlement Mentality?

Sequel to my first post (read here), I decided to confront my roommate this evening. A friend of ours who came visiting wanted someone’s laptop to watch movies and asked for mine. My roommate quickly said “na that one go give you? Laptop that she’ll claim has low battery.” She said in reference to me.

I quickly told her never to ask me for anything again. I told her that she begs too much leaving me with no choice than to say too NO too many times, that’s why she can use them against me. I told her that if I was as stingy as she claims, I would never have considered accommodating her, especially after how she told me she was too dignified to borrow the money for the rent.

I told her she likes everyone doing things for her because since she came to school 3 years ago, she’s never rented her own place. She ‘s always squatting with people to the point that her previous host started complaining after keeping her for two years.  Yet, she was ungrateful and said her last host grumbled too much.

I told her that she hoard things but want from others.

She said “is it just one thing that’s bringing this up?”

I told her no. That it’s this ‘I deserve all attitude’ she keeps when she’s always claiming broke. That whenever I remember that I would have received half the rent from any other person in this recession, it drives me crazy to hear I am stingy. I told her she’s not cunning enough. I was literarily shouting.

She felt very embarrassed as neighbors whom she’s not in good terms with were around and could hear and understand me.

She responded by telling me that she’ll never ask me for anything again, so I shouted FINE. She said that she’ll stay on her own and I said better. Our visitor’s mouth was wide open as she stared at me. She kept telling me it’s OK. Next thing she left.

I exhaled heavily and it was like all my anger evaporated. I didn’t know she’d made me so bitter. I’ve decided that since my old self wasn’t good enough, I’ll say no to her for everything so that I’ll deserve the name she’ll calls me.

As for mutual friends, (who conveniently couldn’t take her in), I don’t think I owe any Mother Theresa an explanation because I think I’ve helped her more by letting her stay in my apartment than they’ve helped her with their ‘Ehyaa..’