Dear MIMsters: Did I Make the Right Decision About My Daughter’s Father
Previously, I came to this platform seeking for advice on how to handle my daughter’s father who wants to take my 2 year-old out of town with him. I don’t know if I made the right decision judging by his response.
He wanted her to spend about 2 months with him in Lagos. Meanwhile, I live with my parents in Abeokuta. The last time he saw her was when she was 5-months-old and now, she is 2 years old.
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I listened to most of the advices given on the page which were mostly in favour of turning down my baby daddy’s request. So I did not let him take her. He was mad and called my parents about it. My parents said he can come and visit his baby in their house and is even free to stay with her as long as he wants, but he is still insisting on taking her with him.
He then told me that since my family and I have prevented him from coming to take his baby and cannot spend time as he desires to with her, then he will no longer come and check on us anymore. Mind you, (he calls only once in two weeks and sends 5 thousand Naira every 5 months which I have never used against him).
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God and my parents have been our stronghold. He added that if our daughter grows up, she will ask me about him, and what will I tell her. He also said that she will come and look for him and he will be waiting for till then. What do you think? Did I make the right decision after all?
First of all, I think your child is very young to be alone with her father without her mother. Also, if the dad has genuine interest in seeing his daughter, i don’t think this excuse is enough to put him off when it comes to seeing her.
We thank God you have a family that supports you. If in future your daughter should ask why, please tell her her dad did not see the worth in her for him to come all the way to be with her. I am sure she will understand.
God bless you for being a wonderful mother to her. He will replenish all that you have lost.
Please,hez just bluffing, you made the right decision,a 2year old without her mother and faraway, dts quite risky. Keep taking care of ur daughter. His contribution is as good as nothing,when ur daughter grows,tell her was not ready to be responsible for her.
Yes you made the right decision. Do not allow him blackmail you into releasing the child to him. You might not see her again.
Please let this sperm donor be, he’s not important in your daughters life. There are lots of crazy stuff happening right now, don’t let that innocent little girl be in danger for any reason.
Tell him till then but for now you can’t allow your daughter go with him . If you allow him you will never see your daughter again. Take my advice.
It’s scary to think for a second that u will consider giving him your 2 yrs old daughter to go with. My daughter is 2 and oh my, it’s so scary to think u even considered that option.
u made the right choice he wants to take her away from u for ever…
2 whole months away from your girl child????To be wit a father she hardly knows.please dont give into any blackmail oh.Its a dangerous world out there . please ensure the security arround your daughter is tight when he comes visiting so he doesnt take her away without your consent.He should not even know her school..5k for 5 months.hmmmm..