Dear Mimsters: My Parents Advised I Settle Down with this Guy. Are they Right?

I’m a 28 years old who has been dating this guy for 4 years now. My parents have adviced me to settle down with a guy who has paid half of my bride price (which I agreed to due to the pressure of seeing my baby sisters already married.)

He is a good man from a good home who loves me so much but I can’t seem to get myself to love him back.

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For the past four years, I would leave him to go date other guys but would always end up with him after every break up because he is always there for me and has told me that he won’t give up on us.

In the four years that I have been with him, we have never kissed or should I say that I have never allowed him to even touch me because I have no single affection for him.

I opened up to both my parents about this and they keep telling me that I should just marry him and that I will learn to love him in the course of the marriage.

My question is: do people really fall in love after the wedding? I was told marriage is full of ups and downs and it takes love and understanding to fight for it. I don’t have any reason to fight for his love apart from for the fact that he keeps me strong when I’m broken.

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Should I still go on to marry him? I’m getting pressure from both my parents to settle down since all three of my babe sisters are married and are already having their kids.

Fact is my parents won’t be there to face each day with me if I eventually get married to this guy that I do not love.  I would like to see your views on this and probably learn a thing or two before I make my final decision.