Dear MIMsters: I’m in an Open Relationship and I’m Sad it Has to End Soon
Lucas and I started dating in 2015. Later, we found out that we weren’t compatible, so we dissolved the relationship and became friends in open relationship. He’s 26 years old but very mature while I’m a 29-year-old who looks like an 18 year-old.
In December 2016, I had accommodation problems, so I started living him until I decided in April to leave him and return to my village to live with my parents. But as friends, we kissed, foreplayed and log into Jerusalem.
He was seeing a girl whom he told me about but I didn’t tell him about the guy I was seeing. My case was different because I wasn’t sleeping with this other guy who is name is Ken.
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Lucas always wore a condom when sleeping with his Bae. I know because we both trust each other and have each other’s passwords for both phones and ATM.
Yet, he kept praying for me to get married. I was shattered, reason being that I still find myself loving him and he treats me like his Bae, providing all the necessary thing a girlfriend wants and needs.
After I travelled 2 weeks ago, I told him that I would be getting married. He was happy and said God has answered his prayers. I asked him why. He said he would have wanted to get married to me but he knows I won’t be able to wait for him due to the fact that I’m 3 years old than him. He says he prays to meet someone like me in future.
I’ve asked him to come make love to me for the last time so that I won’t cheat on my hubby with him in the future. I’ve invited to come next week while my official introduction is at the end of this month, August.
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I am not really in love with Ken. His love for me is about 80 percent while mine for him is 20 but I know my love for him would grow. I know because his name was mentioned when I had a one month prayer and after that, he proposed. Likewise for him as he has been seeing me in his dreams even before we met.
I just want to know if I am making the right decision.
what if after this last sex u get preg or he catches.evn if he doesn’t it doesn’t mk sense leav him n move on
Hmmmmmm this one is serious.
You think you love Lucas because sex is involved. It’s a deceiver and it’s better you end it before it destroys you. You asking for advice already shows how guilty you feel, yes, you are. Hold on to the man that loves you and wants to marry you, by the time you are in love, you won’t be a cheater and learn to be a disciplined woman too. Happy introduction in advance.
Have some respect for yourself woman, face the one you are getting married to, sex is not food.
MY case is like yours. But you have to leave that Lucas and face your God given husband to avoid had i know.
Forget about Lucas and focus on your God given husband, if its sex that’s drawing you to Lucas kill the urge … wait till you marry your husband and he will give it to you the way you want it. And if after the marriage he can’t perform like Lucas as God to upgrade him to your choice. Repent now ,,marriage is alifetime comittment start preapering for your marriage.