Dear MIMsters: My Temper Towards My Child Is Disturbing
I need encouragement and advice from other Mimsters on how to control my temper.
I’m a very temperamental person and it is affecting the way I handle my baby. I am a first time mum with a 9 months old baby. I beat and shout at him due to some minor disturbances which I know is common with babies.
Even when he was less than 2 months old, I hit him for waking up constantly.
I feel I am not a good mum to him and I feel so bad about hitting him but I can’t seem to help myself.
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Today, due to the fact that he didn’t want to be calm for me to feed him, I beat him. I don’t know what to do. This is a baby I had no problems taking in. His conception and pregnancy was stress free for me. I had no sickness whatsoever throughout this pregnancy.
During his delivery I was already 5cm dilated at home before I was taken to the hospital without pains. So I have no reason to be angry towards my son.
I need help and advice on how to stop taking my frustrations out on my son.
You are not being a good mother walahi, that’s physical abuse not training. Give the baby to your mother and send monthly allowance. He is better off.
Please ma, You need to see a therapist. Poor child may be affected terribly as this action can form an integral part of his development. This is part of the sick reasons we hear about serial killers and rapers. Give him up for adoption or seek help. If you get the urge, put him down safely in his cot and take a two minutes break to think about people praying to be blessed with a child. You’ll feel better when you come back
go n take anger management courses.keep praying
See a counselor please. You need help.
Always take a minute to breath and think about your actions before you take them. When I get angry at my kid,I look into his eyes and see the innocence. This might sound very religious but you have to pray about it and get help. Anger management classes will help. Be patient dear,kids will be kids,they throw tantrums till about 5.
You need to see a shrink, a professional. Please do this urgently to save this poor innocent angel before any damage is done. You are not a bad mother, this might be a Post Par-tum depression, it happens a lot to mothers but it’s not recognized in our society.