Dear MIMsters: Do Women Feel This Way About Penetration or Is My Wife’s Biology Different?
Is my wife’s biology different?
I’ve been married for about a month now. We both got married as virgins but we did break through over a couple of days. It was painful for her at first and heartbreakingly discomforting for me. Now she’s taking it better. But here lies my question.
We’ve discovered that penetration doesn’t give her any pleasure at all. But grinding does the job perfectly.
I don’t feel good about penetrating seeing that it doesn’t give her any pleasure even though we decided to do the penetration only after she cums via grinding so she can get pregnant.
Now do all or most women feel the same way about penetration? Due to what we discovered, she feels pleasure when her clitoris is stimulated hence head + grinding. Not when she’s penetrated. Because we’ve been figuring out ways to test if we have always been lied to by the media’s presentation of sexual pleasure. Or is it just her biology?
Again if stimulating the clitoris is the key, then penetration from no angle or Kamasutra style can really do that stimulation. So are all those styles and positions just for the male fantasies or is my wife’s biology different?
Before we miss the point, I just want to know if penetration itself is pleasurable for the woman or is grinding and head what really gives pleasure? She always says the only feeling she gets from penetration is the urge to ‘mess.’
I and my wife would be following the conversation.
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Most women that I know do not orgasm during penetration so I guess she’s perfectly normal.
See a gynaecologist and also a sex therapist. yhu might not get anything that will help from here.
There’s absolutely NOTHING wrong with your wife. When I got married almost three years ago (and I married as a virgin) I had the same problem. Till date, I have never ever cum via penetration. It’s still painful for me and no style (be it doggy, spoon etc) makes it any better. To make penetration less difficult, my husband makes sure I’m really wet ( he uses something oily to lubricate me first.) and then comes first. He makes sure I’m really excited before penetrating. So there’s nothing wrong with your wife sir.
Cumming in ladies mostly happens when romancing n rubbing her clitoris… It’s very rear for a lady to cum in penetration