Tope Alabi on What Her Mother Taught Her Plus Checking Regularly to See if Her Virginity Was Intact

In a recent interview with Punchng, popular singer, Tope Alabi, speaks about her childhood, career, marriage, motherhood and other issues.

According to a report by Nigerian Films in 2015, the artiste who is married to her manager, Soji Alabi, had a child before entering the union which produced three children. This exclusive revelation is said to be shrouded in utmost secrecy, as it is only known to the musician’s very close family members

However, in this interview with Punchng, the 48-year-old talked about her upbringing, in which she said, “I was the only girl in the house and I was raised strictly. My mother was a disciplinarian and she brooked no nonsense. There was no room for me to go astray.

“She taught me that a female shouldn’t be too close to men. For example, I was never bathed at the same time with my male siblings. My mother used to check if my virginity was intact every three months interval before I got married; especially whenever I returned from movie locations. When I newly got married to my husband, we went to the National Theatre in Lagos to watch a movie and actors like Yinka Quadri, Ebun Oloyede, among others were there. When they saw my husband, they congratulated him and told him that he had chosen a good and exemplary wife. That made my husband quite happy. My mum was very strict and she never spared the rod. She also showed me a lot of motherly love.

“My mum always taught me to be respectful. She mandated me to always kneel when greeting elderly people and I still do that till date, even for people I am older than.”

On juggling marriage and carrier, the singer reveals, “I have been trying my best and God has been helping me. I work with my husband; so, we are often together. My children have also been wonderful. I always teach them the word of God and they even know how to pray better than me now. My children also critique my ministrations and I learn from them.

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“I thank God because He is the one that has raised the children for me. I am very grateful that my children are godly. Even when guys approach my daughter, she tells me about it because she knows that even if she doesn’t tell me, God would reveal it to me. Whenever we are together, I tell them about God. These days, kids have access to information from a lot of places. If God is not involved, they may not turn out well. I have learnt that it is very good to be friendly with your kids so that they can relate well with you. I play a lot with my kids. If children are not shown love in the home, they would seek for it outside.”