Dear MIMsters: How My Mother Has Succeeded In Destroying My Confidence In Her

My mother and I have had some issues in the past about privacy and it seems she just doesn’t understand where I’m coming from or she simply doesn’t care. Is she working against us, her children? She has succeeded in destroying my confidence in her.

The problem is every time I discuss my personal issues with my mother in confidant, she will go on to tell her friends and family members who will also repeat and broadcast it to whoever cares to listen. I’m so hurt and angry especially with what happened recently.

She called me at a time when I had just received some devastating news about my health from my doctor. I was quite emotional and vulnerable so I told her and begged her not to tell anyone else about it because it’s very private.

Would you believe that in that same week, my cousin called me and mentioned it. I was so angry and I called my mother. Let’s just say that I did not speak to her like a daughter should speak to her mother. The most annoying part is she gets very defensive and does not even show any remorse.

I don’t have a lot of friends and I thought making my mother my confidant was the right thing to do. But now, I know that I can’t trust her anymore. I keep giving her chances and she keeps breaking my trust. I’m not even the only one as my siblings have also complained about the same thing.

Is my mother working against us? The funny thing is she always calls to ask us questions, always wanting to know everything about us. Shouldn’t a mother’s ultimate aim be to protect the interest of her children?