Dear MIMsters: This Time Around, My Father-In-Law Has Outdone Himself And I Will Deal With Him (Part One)

I am married into a closely-knitted family who thinks their calling is to be there for one another and that makes me madder than anyone can fathom. I mean, why can’t people just stay on their own lanes? Always interfering in my family affair! My FIL has outdone himself this time around and I am ready to deal with him.

My husband is the 2^nd of 3 boys. His parents have been married for over 4 decades and should be grandparents now but their married sons are yet to impregnate their wives… Of the 3 women their sons are married to, I am the only one who has giving birth to a cute little boy. And they still do not understand that I hold the reins here.

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My husband is a banker and stupidly too friendly with people. I just can’t deal with his openness. That funny enough, is a trait common in his family. They think they are nice but I think they are stupid. They do not know where to draw the lines- relating with everyone like classless people. I was shocked the day I saw my MIL serving food to the family washer man. Don’t get me wrong, I am not stingy but a saner person will expect that since the man is duly paid, he should do his job and move. Why do more than necessary? I just think that their eye-service is ridiculous.

OK, back to my issue with FIL.

A neighbour hinted me about this widowed mother of 4 children down my street whom my husband has been giving money to, under the pretense of ‘help.’ So, I decided to monitor my husband’s movement around this widow and God so good, I caught him red-handed!

This particular Saturday morning, he said he was going to visit his parents and I opted out. I was not about to deal with those old folks eye-service that morning. Always trying to poke their noses into my affairs… So I asked him to give me some money which I needed for one of my friend’s asoebi. Her mother was going to be 60 and girls got to parry. He told me he didn’t have money to give me that morning though he made commitments to give at the end of the month.

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It wasn’t quite 10 minutes that he left the house when that my neighbour alerted me that my husband had gone into that widow’s house. I quickly instructed my house girl to watch Desmond- my 2 months old baby and ran to see for myself. I caught him red-handed. I saw him hand over some money to the woman, and like Father Christmas, he gave money to each of the woman’s children. I overheard him telling the woman that he would see what he could do about her children’s school fees, and the stupid woman knelt down to say thank you. I moved into action swiftly. I dealt the stupid husband-snatcher of a woman a good slap, snatched the money from her hand and screamed at her children to return the money my husband gave to all of them to me. Can you believe it? In a season like this, my husband gave 10k to the woman and 2k each to her 4 children totaling 18k. Meanwhile, all I needed for the asoebi I asked for was just 25k. If he could give 18k for ‘charity’, I am certain he has more in his pocket. So why did he deny me of my right to go and face what was none of his business!

to be continued...