Celebrity Moms Share How They Deal With Mommy Guilt-Trip And It Is Uplifting
Guilt-trip is one of the hardest feelings moms always have to deal with; especially in relations to balancing work/career, children upbringing and family life.
Most moms are racked with guilt-feeling that their bests aren’t good enough- they struggle when work commitments prevent them from attending school events, and they are crushed by the looks on their children’s faces at such times.
To that effect, these celebrity moms have shared some words of advice on how they keep their mom-guilt at a low.
Jessica Alba: Squeeze Some “Me Time” In
The Hollywood actress was named ‘mother of the year’ in Beverly Hills in the year, 2014. The 37-year old mom-of-3 has a lot to juggle besides raising her three kids- she’s a boss-lady busy running her Honest Company empire along with acting but she still makes it a priority to find some ‘alone time’ for herself; she says it’s a must.
“Don’t get overwhelmed trying to do everything at once,” she told Parents Latina magazine. “Lay out what you can get done now and what will take longer. Don’t be hard on yourself. Doing your best to be present wherever you are is what’s important.
“It’s worth it to recharge once a week. Get sleep, have a date night or a girls’ night in, and drink some wine!”
On mother’s day, Jessica shared on how motherhood has changed her on Instagram page.
”Motherhood: it’s a doozy, isn’t it? Your world gets turned completely upside down. Everything you thought you knew about what was important is no longer. And all the things you once took for granted — like sleep, and sitting down to eat an actual meal — become the greatest luxuries.
Little people change you. To love and need someone that much and have them love and need you just as much…it’s the best and hardest and most heartbreaking thing there is. I still can’t believe it, but my oldest baby is almost 10 years old.
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And you know what? She doesn’t need me in the same ways she once did. There goes that heartbreak again…but it’s true. The time we have with our little ones when they’re actually little is so fleeting. And it’s a reminder for me to be present and cherish every messy moment.
Every tantrum, every tired cry, every bit of these days that sometimes feel like they’ll never end. Because the truth is, they will. As a first-time mother, I was still learning about this person I had become. And I felt like everything had to be just perfect.
But these days, I’m ok if my baby cries a little bit…because I know he’ll be ok. And so what if the dishes pile up in the sink…and if my living room looks nothing like the Instagram post five seconds after I take the picture. It’s all ok.
This Mother’s Day (and really, every day), I want to thank you for trusting us @honest to be a part of your journey. And I want to let you know that even if it doesn’t always feel like it, you’ve got this. It’s not gonna be perfect. But you’re an amazing mama. And that’s everything. xo. ????❤️✨.”
Giuliana Rancic: No Phones At Home
The 44-year old Italian-American TV personality, Giuliana Rancic has one hard rule that she has followed since becoming a mom to her son, Duke. The breast cancer survivor, who welcomed her adorable 6-year-old son via surrogacy in 2012; leaves work at the door as soon as she arrives at home and that means no phones.
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“What I do now is that when I’m at work, I’m 100 percent focused on work. I return all my emails. I don’t just sit there and surf the Internet like before,” she told Fashion magazine.
“And when I’m home, I would focus 100 percent on Duke and put the phone away … that way I would feel a little more of a balance.”
Hoda Kotb: It’s Ok To Still Love Your Career
54-year old Hoda Kotb is living her dream as co-host of Today. The news anchor wants women everywhere to realize that it’s possible to still have the job of your dreams and be a loving present mom.
“I go to work and I sort of feel like I miss Haley, but I don’t ache,” Kotb told PEOPLE, “I remember my mom going to work and saying, ‘I love you and I’m going to work, and when I come home I’m going to love you here.’
[My parents] missed things, but it didn’t scar me — I knew they loved me,” she added. “I also knew they loved what they did. We are all workers in a way — we love what we do.”
Serena Williams: Getting help from other moms on social media
Last week, on the eve of her return to the U.S. Open, Williams granted an interview on “Today” where she talked about her Grand Slam goals, embracing her critics and how she works through ‘mom-guil’ with the help of a few million friends on social media.
”It’s been so unreal. Another time I said I didn’t feel like I was being a good mom, and everyone was just chiming in and so supportive. And saying, “By the way, we felt this way too.” And so for me, it makes me just feel okay.
I feel like moms are all — you know — we’re all the same people. It doesn’t matter what race you are, what color you are, what background you’re from. I feel like we all have a connection. We just want to help each other out. So I’m really using social media in a way to help me understand my struggles with my baby.
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I have my mom. She’s had five kids, and so that’s really cool. But what I think is super interesting is the fact that I’m relying on everyone else. I think in this age of social media, it presents a different opportunity.
I feel like moms are all — you know — we’re all the same people. So when I’m feeling down or I’m feeling stressed, I literally will write about it. I’ll go on either Snap, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and I post an article.
And I get the most impressive feedback and help. And I feel like I’m getting so much help from all the moms — and dads, by the way — and parents out there.
Like, when I missed Olympia’s walking and I posted about it, and so many parents wrote in and said, “Don’t worry about it. I missed it too!” And I didn’t realize that it was almost more normal to miss it than to make it. And so when I realized that, I was like, “Wow. This is great.” So I really kind of rely on everyone’s help out there, and it’s been so, so, so amazing.
Debra Messing: Lean On Your Girlfriends
The 50-year old ‘Will and Grace, actress, Debra Messing reaches out to her girl gang when she needs a little extra help juggling work with her son, Roman.
“Make sure you have people around you that can give you support and help, whether it’s best friends, family members, or a babysitter, the actress told POPSUGAR.
“It’s incredibly hard even when you don’t have a job. So, when you have a full-time job on top of that, you just have to be [super] organized, and that was a hard lesson for me to learn.”