Dear MIMsters: Judge me all you want, I’m still getting a divorce

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Judge me all you want, I’m still going to get a divorce. I don’t care anymore about what people will say, especially after this.

That useless man called my husband and I have been married for 11 years now. He has always been unfaithful. I have done everything reasonably possible to get him to stop. I’ve involved people he respects to talk to him, I’ve prayed, begged, cried, explained how it hurts and makes me feel but to no avail.

I think I have been very accommodating to put up with such a man for this long. I can’t take it anymore. At some point, I noticed that this my husband has been hating on my younger sister who lives with us for some reason. He complains about everything she does and picks fault with anything she says. My sister on the other hand, has been sort of withdrawn and quiet. She is 14 years old. I called my mum in Lagos who told me that my sister was on the phone with her earlier that day and she could sense she was unhappy.

She wanted to know if everything was OK with us here. I live in the United States with my husband, and 3 kids. My sister just recently came to live with us.

After the conversation with my mum, I took my sister out and assured her of my love, and that I would stand by her no matter what. Then she opened up and tells me that my husband has been making sexual advances towards her. He’s tried to lure her using gifts and making promises. I was dumbfounded, hurt, and mad to say the least. He certainly doesn’t know where to stop, even with my own baby sister. She was 3 years old when we got married. He saw her grow. I decided that I’m not having anymore of this nonsense. I am bringing an end to this madness. I am getting a divorce and leaving this sham of a marriage for good.

I have sent him papers as I write.