American Girl, Kelsey Baker’s Note Against Emotional Abuse Is a MUST READ
An American college student, Kelsey Baker has gone viral by ‘speaking’ to the minds of every abused, irrespective of colour and/or gender.
On no ground should any form of abuse be tolerated, and on no account must the abused take the blame of his/her ordeal upon himself/herself. Every adult must be ‘adult’ enough to take full responsibilities for their actions.
In her note, Kelsey reiterates that it is not okay to allow abuse to linger, and that the abused must never believe he/she is at fault. She added that the abused must not apologize for the mistakes of the abuser saying, “Do not let him tear you apart to build himself higher. You are worthy of love and happiness and respect… Please don’t tell yourself it’s okay or ever allow yourself to get used to it.”
See her full post below:
“Maybe he doesn’t hit you, but he makes you apologize for getting upset after something he did to hurt you. Maybe he doesn’t hit you, but you have to walk on eggshells every day to ensure he is satisfied enough to remain calm and happy. Maybe he doesn’t hit you, but he steals your sense of comfort and security leaving you paranoid and “crazy”. Y’all….. this is so serious.”
“So what he brought you flowers on Tuesday and made you feel like a princess. Yet caused you to cry yourself to sleep on Wednesday over a “suspicious” guy liking your picture. Maybe he bought you earrings and made you feel so secure on Friday, but told you Saturday night he’s going to sleep with someone else all because you decided to stand up for yourself for once. Maybe he bought you tickets to the John Langston concert and made you feel so beautiful as you curled your hair and put on your jean skirt before you left. Just to crack your phone on the concrete and make you sit on the sidewalk ugly crying because he was jealous of a guy who stood near you at the concert. Maybe you did everything right but he still wants to victimize himself just so he doesn’t have to put in effort to right his wrongs.”
“This is not okay. And you are not at fault.
Do not apologize for his mistakes. Do not let him tear you apart to build himself higher. You are worthy of love and happiness and respect.
Please don’t wait for him to change as he carelessly rips apart your soul and everything that is you. Please don’t tell yourself it’s okay or ever allow yourself to get used to it.
He is broken. Do not let him break you.”
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Kelsey’s post went viral, garnering almost 100k shares with about 9k comments. Now, following the wide acceptance of the post, Kelsey has added an update in which she is gladly availing herself to anyone who might need someone to speak to; she opined that no one should hurt in solitude.
See below:
“**update**
You guys… the amount of love and support arising from this post is amazing. Thank you so much for all your kind words, it means much more than you know. Please feel welcome to message me if you need absolutely anything. No one should hurt in solitude.
Also – I am very aware that men go through these same experiences just as much as, if not more than women. This post was simply a fraction of my personal story shared in a moment of vulnerability.
God Bless all of you beautiful people ????”