Dear MIMsters: Am I Making the Right Decision to Leave My Husband After This?

Am I making the right decision to leave my husband after this?

I got married two years ago to a God fearing man. He is a devoted Christian who preached no sex before marriage and kept to it. I have never been in a situation to suspect him.

But two days ago, I got the shock of my life. My 12 year-old niece slept off on the chair and I was in the bedroom. Shortly after, he told me to remove my phone from the charger because it was plugged directly were she was sleeping.

A few minutes later as I was going into the living room to ask my hubby for something, in a flash, I saw him bent over my sleeping niece, arranging a bedspread over her and it seemed like he was touching her. I confronted him immediately and he reacted by quickly grabbing his phone to fondle with.

When he turned around to take a seat, I could see that he was fully erect. I went numb and I can’t describe how I felt. He went back and forth saying he is a man and can get erection anytime and that after all, I always give excuse of being tired and not always intimate with him.

We had a long talk the next day and I gave him three conditions. It was either I report what happened to my sister or brother, report to the church or no more unprotected sex. He said he can’t choose any and I can decide whatever I want to do.

The last time we had a physical confrontation, I reported him to the church. My mother-in-law loves me so much and will do anything to protect our marriage but she wasn’t happy when she later learned I reported her son to the church.

I often talk about sex to my niece and we are close. I’ve indirectly asked her whether she has been molested from anyone including my hubby. She said no. It’s been two days now and I still can’t grasp my head around it. I feel weak and sick that the man I got married to could do this.
My next line of action will depend on all the advice I will get. That scenario keeps playing in my head. We have been having huge financial difficulties and we could be sent out from our apartment at any moment. I solicited for fund from my brother and I plan on getting a better apartment, something he promised me before our wedding.

I’m not one of those women who are bent on staying for their kids. I just have one. I even got an implant without his knowledge due to our financial issues. With what just happened, I feel like I made the best decision even though I will be 35 next year. I need to be sure that I am making the right decision.