Chinwe Kalu: The Many Reasons I’m One Thankful Mum

I am a thankful mum.

I remember when I conceived my son. He’s now my first-born but there was a girl before him. She died. It was such a grim time for my husband and I, but the Lord saw us through. The issue became, what next? How long would I have to wait to conceive again? I had an IUD on but wanted another baby.

Life can become a paradox. But now, I had to have it removed. At that time, I read a book written by Oral Roberts, ‘The Preacher’s Daughter-in-law’ who also lost her first child. She wrote about having a word from God that she would get pregnant in 6 months, and that became my word.

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True to His promise, I was pregnant exactly 6 months later. I wanted a girl, but there was my handsome boy, healthy and strong. I was grateful for another chance. What guarantees do we have about having babies? He just shows us mercy. That handsome baby boy is all grown up now, and I couldn’t ask for a better son. I am thankful.

Then, I think of my first daughter and the circumstances around her conception. I was satisfied with my boy and not in a hurry to have another child. I’d just started a new job when I found myself pregnant. Completely wrong timing. It was a traumatic time in my life. I needed that job badly. I crazily thought of an abortion.

What? How desperate was I? So I looked up to Him again and He kept me despite all the rumpus. Very uncomfortable time, but He was on my side. I had a beautiful baby girl. She would make any mother proud. She’s truly beautiful. She says I’m her best friend. We talk a lot. All her teenage fantasies, she shares with me. That’s such a privilege. She says it’s because I’m a ‘cool’ mum. I am thankful.

Then, I was on my way to work one early morning and a name flashed in my mind. I felt it was the name of my next daughter. Truly, I got pregnant a few weeks later. Another beautiful angel with loads of hair. Growing into a beautiful young woman, I still can’t get over her. She’s the A student. Not that the others don’t get As, she just focuses on getting them. Her performance at school makes me proud. I am thankful.

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As far as I was concerned, I was done. I had 3 healthy children and was fine. Alarmingly, I missed a period. Now this was real trauma. Then I got a word, “I know you don’t want this baby but go ahead and have her anyway.” That was my motivation. He knew about her and that made it all okay.

Now, she’s the electrifier of our home. Free spirited with a beautiful heart, she’s the one you want to be with. Very generous and wants everyone to be happy. Some people call her ‘little Me’. She’s growing into an amazing young woman, makes friends with older people very easily.

One of such friends was leaving town and wrote her a note: “I’m really grateful for the times we got to hang out both at church and at your house. You’re a really special and beautiful young woman. I’m really glad God decided to make you. You have something beautiful and precious to give to the world – starting with just your awesome smile.”

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What more could I ask from the biggest surprise in my life? I am thankful.

Our relationships have evolved and I have discovered four beautiful individuals; so different, yet, all my children. I would not exchange it for anything in the world. I am thankful.