Dear MIMsters: Everything In My Marriage Is Going From Bad to Worse

I am 27 and a mother of 2. It’s going to two years now since my hubby lost his job. Since then, nothing has been working out for us. Everything is just going from bad to worse day by day as he’s not helping any matter.

He made sure my provisions business collapsed as he stopped his responsibilities as a husband and a father. I can’t ask for a little money from him even for the children. When I do, he shouts at me, asking, when last did he collect salary, telling me that he doesn’t have. It continued like that until I had nothing left in the shop again. Now, I’m back home. He just wants to see me suffer. This same man will go out calling different girls to come and meet him.

He would listen to other people’s problems but won’t show any interest in how I feel. When he gets some money, he will keep spending it outside, leaving me, my kids and my siblings to starve. Sometimes, my kids go to school without snacks or juices for break.

I really want to quit this marriage for long now but the fear of where to go from here is killing me. I’m psychologically disorganised. I can’t even think right, thinking and crying have taken the best parts of me. I’m dying in silence.

Even when I’m crying and my son goes to tell him, “my mummy is crying,” he doesn’t show any concern. I’m just wasting my time here and there’s nobody to fight for me. I have an OND result but no work. I wanted to learn a skill after our traditional wedding but he refused and suggested that I should start a provision store, not knowing he has planned to ruin me.

Where we live, he has not yet developed for me to be selling zobo or minerals and I don’t have money to rent another shop. When people see me there, though I look fine because I don’t look like what I’m going through but my heart is in pain, and my head is heavy on me. I still come outside with smiles, pretending all is okay but I’m dying in silent. I’m young and beautiful, I have never cheated on him. I don’t know why God has forgotten me.

Please help me call on God to intervene in my situation. I am going down slowly.