Nigerian Publisher, Betty Irabor, Instructs On Kind Speech, Puts Ill-Mannered Persons On Full Blast
Founder and Publisher of the famous Genevieve magazine, Betty Irabor, has a word or two for people who put others down. In a lengthy Instagram post, the broadcaster did not mince words as she put people who cut others down with their lack of courtesy and discretion; in speech and manners on full blast.
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The 61-year-old mum of two was reacting to an unkind friend who tried to belittle her when they recently met at an event. According to her, she had not seen this ‘friend’ in years, but as she smiled, walking towards her, she made a most insensitive comment about her; that caused her to wonder if there was something awfully wrong with how she appeared.
Betty who has in the past revealed that she battled hard against depression; made reference to the fact that her ‘firiend’s’ insensitive attitude to her could have easily sent her down the dark alley if it were, one of those days when she was still struggling with her sense of self.
Making exaggerated comments about the looks, or personalities of other people will never be a fancy thing, and people really need to learn that when they talk badly to others; they are only revealing how bad they are on the inside.
Betty warned on the ‘nastiness’ of such indiscretions, and said people who talk down on others are in fact miserable and have self-hate issues.
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Read what she wrote below:
“Betty, what happened to you?? I attended a Service of Songs this January and saw a lady friend.. well, not a friend like that but sha a friend. I hadn’t seen her for years. As I smiled towards her amidst selfies and pecks with other friends, she gasped loud; “Ah! Betty, what happened to you?” For a minute I thought I had a wardrobe malfunction or something worse, like poo all over me!! “What happened to you?” She exclaimed again. Now, there were abt 20 of us right there paying our condolences to our bereaved friend after the service.
As I wondered what she meant, like how, where, what or when? She exclaimed “Ah, you have gone much darker, are u ok? U used to be lighter!” She looked really pained!
I have? Was the only Come Back I could find at that moment, although I had some pretty petty acidic stuff I could have hauled back at her right there! But I don’t do dirt. I am still learning. Instead, I smiled and just walked away thanking God for how far I have come from the days of depression when such nastiness could have sent me back into my insecurity. Those indiscretions are wasted on me now. I don’t hear them. I don’t react to them.
We all need to stop this nastiness of trying to put others down because of our own misery and self hate! Weight, looks, colour are not forms of greetings, unless they are beautiful words. If you’re unhappy with yourself don’t lash out at people who are not responsible for your woes. Go fix your small mindedness! Ask for help if possible. It’s against social etiquette to ask people if they have gained weight in full glare of others. Imagine my shock when someone said to a teenager at a show “you’ve obviously been eating too many burgers and fries, u need to eat more veggies! I was happy when the teen retorted “Aunty, mind your F* business”. It entered well well!
So, if you have nothing good to say, pls count up to 10 first. Envy is hazardous to all our health.
See her post below:
Hopefully, the lessons from Betty’s post find good use with everyone who needs to make an adjustment with how they talk down at others.