Dads: Six Things Your Sons Need From You
While a mother’s love is priceless, boys still need their dads to teach them how to be men. The importance of a father figure for girl children is equally important, but even more so important is it for the boys. What if you are a single mum, raising your sons alone? You can wisely introduce positive male influences to your boys during their formative years. The key word is ‘positive influences’.
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Dads, here are six of the basic things your son needs from you:
1. A Big Heart
Boys need affection but their interpretation of it is different from that of a female. Male love is more physical and active than anything else, your boy needs you to kick balls and roll in the grass with.
Providing the typical “guy-love” your son needs teaches him how to channel natural male aggression through good-natured camaraderie. Taking him under your wing, you cultivate an important trait of good fathers in him – to protect those you love.
2. Open Arms
Nothing reinforces a boy’s self-worth as spending time with a man who enjoys his company. While sports and other activities are great, sometimes guys hanging out together is a great confidence booster for boys.
Talk with your son, sit with and take a stroll with him; have him with you when you make repairs around the home. He learns from all that to be self-assured and gets a big boost on how to focus, be kind, and gentlemanly.
3. Gentle, Firm Voice
Boys need their marked territories. While mothers can go a long way in socializing their sons, boys learn best from their fathers how to establish discipline and demonstrate self-control while giving punishment.
Your gentle but firm voice has far reaching effects in maintaining order, your son learns from you that he can be assertive without being abusive or angry, consequently, he learns to adopt a conversational tone and communicate boundaries clearly but gently.
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4. Devoted Eyes
This one may catch you a little unawares but you certainly have heard it before that loving the mother of your child is probably the best gift you can give to your child. Boys need a man to show them what being a loving and committed husband really means.
Share friendly moments with your wife and let your son see you show affection towards her every now and then. Speak in respectful, reverent tones about the love of your live-his mother. In so doing, you teach him to love and accept wholesome love.
5. Laugh Lines
Dads are notorious for being naughty and funny. Boys need to have a model who they can share cheeky contests with, to help them relate with the lighter side of male life. Bond with your son and enjoy harmless jokes and some silly men jokes together.
6. Busy Fingers
Fathers instinctively know you have to keep male hands busy. Boys need someone who will get down in the dirt with them, teach them how to cultivate or change the oil in the car.
Not only do you keep them occupied, they also learn valuable skills that will prove useful through out their lives as men.
In conclusion, uncles,neighbours, or other men who distinguish themselves in character can be carefully introduced to your son’s life if his biological father is absent, late or you both just aren’t together anymore.