Dear MIMsters: I Am Guilty Of Being In Love With Two Men, But I’m Confused About What To Do
I am 23 years old in my undergraduate and will be graduating next year. Right now, I am guilty of being in love with two men.
I met Mudi in my first year in 2016. He had just completed his National diploma and was doing his internship in the same company with me. We got close and he was really very nice to me. We were really good friends when he asked me to be his girlfriend. I declined because I was in a relationship with a guy whom I really love and loves me back.
Mudi, the other guy in question didn’t give up. He was always there for me and even convinced me to buy D.E form for the same school he applied for, which I did. And we got admission into the same institution. We really got so intimate and close. We turned best friends because he was real and I got really comfortable with him that I told him my secrets, my family issh and he told me his too. I really got attracted to him, while I was still dating my boyfriend. Mudi made me so free around him, helped me build up my low self esteem.
I could play with him, crack jokes, fart in front of him; things I couldn’t do with my boyfriend. I laugh so hard when I’m with him because his sense of humour is something else but I don’t get all that from my boyfriend as he is a quiet guy, quite formal, not so funny but he’s also a very nice, loving and caring guy. We have no friendship, just love, truth be told. I fell in love with Mudi and he loved me from the onset and has never given up. He has been asking me to leave my boyfriend.
He has tried because he has been with me for the past three years even as I splash my relationship on his face. Mudi is already fed up with me. He says, I love him but I haven’t yet left my boyfriend. It may sound strange but I really love him and don’t want him to go because he is a sweet guy. At the same time, I also don’t know what or how to tell my boyfriend I no longer want him and I still love my boyfriend and don’t want to leave him.
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Mudi has been there for me since the past 3 years and has given up all his female friends to prove how serious he wants to be with me but I just don’t feel it’s the right time to leave my boyfriend, even though I love Mudi so much. Mudi is now saying he’ll leave if I don’t do something about it. I love this Mudi so much because we do everything together and I have also cheated on my boyfriend with him in different ways. I know that I am guilty but I am really confused on what to do. I need your sound advice.
Wow! This is delicate but you made it so. Let me be candid with you, you want to eat your cake and have it back. You are just playing with two original and fake innocent heart,
The person you started building your relationship with is the original heart and the one you met at IT is the fake.
I will open your mind to something about true trust and fake trust. I will use an analogy to paint this picture of fake and true trust.
I believe, your true boyfriend didn’t know about this other guy but the other that is trying to play true knows about him. This is cheating by style… It will start by pet names(story for another day)
If you leave your true boyfriend for him, he will trust you to be truthful but that trust won’t last.
As soon as, he started seeing you with male friends, abuse(verbally if not physically), serious jealousy and monitoring will set him.
You know why, because how he snatched you from your true boyfriend will forever be ringing bell in his conscience and he will always want to guide against it, even if that doesn’t cross your mind to do.
Meanwhile, your main boyfriend who innocently doesn’t know anything still trust you completely to be faithful to him(see life)
You said, you only have love with your boyfriend(main one), why not build friendship, intimacy, playing gesture(etc) with him. There’s a boy in man every man that want to come out and play…(mine play like little children *smile) but you don’t want to build the friendship because you are getting it from Mr. B. Mr B will bring out the beast in him when he finally have you.
“Be on the side of the angel not the beast”… Everyday, everyone of us usually boils down to a simple choice between being on the side of the angels or the beasts.
Commitment heed result, lack of commitment heed result but the result of both is classified by their fruit or reward(By SholaAyodele)
You can install everything you see in Mr B life in Mr. A for enjoyment and long lasting relationship. Build your relationship on true trust and complete faith.
Don’t build on assumptions but fact. There are series of questions you can asked Mr Mudi that throw him off balance… Phone ba3 low
Shalom