Dear MIMsters: Seems Like The Spark In Our Relationship Has Died

This Mimster wants your advice… Seems like the spark in our relationship has died.

I am 30 in a relationship with a 32 yrs old guy. We’ve been dating for close to 3 years now. We’ve had challenges and issues which we’ve been able to resolve maturely.

Things are hard for us financially because my man is presently unemployed. I work but earn very little. We planned to visit his family this month because we want to settle down but due to our poor finance, we couldn’t embark on the journey.

In these past 2 weeks, I noticed some negative changes in our relationship. He hardly calls. I’ve been the one doing most of the calling, and even when I call, there’s this strain in our conversation, which has never been so before. We now chat like strangers.

At first, I suspected he’s seeing some other girl since ours is a long distance relationship but we visit each other regularly. I visited him yesterday and we had a long chat. He told me to move on when I find somebody else. Claims he’s not seeing anyone else and still loves me but his financial issues are really affecting him. He’s really been trying to get back on his feet but things ain’t just working out for him and he’s really getting frustrated.

He feels like he’s not bringing in anything positive to the table and doesn’t know how long we are going to continue like this. Whenever he visits me, he washes my clothes, cooks and takes good care of me. I try to do same too when I visit but seems mine isn’t good enough, because he told me I don’t do same for him. It seems he’s lost interest in us being together.

Even though he still loves me, he’s not feeling the relationship like it used to be. Seems the spark in the relationship died gradually. I just want to know, is it possible to bring back the spark we had? If yes, pls how do I go about it? I still love him, or should I let go? I’ve gone through a lot in my past relationships, but this guy has been my best, we ve gone through a lot together.