Veteran Nollywood actress, Stella Damasus in a post she shared on her Instagram page is educating on how to make your relationship better and stronger.
According to the 41-year-old mom-of-two who finally found the very one who brings out the best in her, Daniel Ademinokan, after being married twice, the key is to listen while others express and explain whatâs on their minds; or just to vent, without interrupting.
She stated further that cooking up responses immediately the person starts to talk is not the best way as one will miss out on what they are really saying. âSo, be a listener and let them talk,â she admonished.
Below is her full post:
âWhen you give others the chance to express whatâs on their minds, to explain, or just to vent (without interrupting), you make the relationship stronger and better.
âWe have to learn to care about what people say. Donât be one of those who start to cook up responses in their head immediately the person starts to talk. You will miss out on what they are really saying.
âListen to them and let it sink in. Let them see that you are interested in what they are saying. Let them keep talking and you will see that most times they will arrive at their own answer.
âThe truth is, sometimes people just want someone who cares enough to listen and let them express themselves. They donât expect every single person to be a therapist.
âSo, be a listener and let them talk. If you donât have the answers, just hold their hand and tell them you understand. You will be shocked that it works better than forcing a solution.â
