Dear MIMsters: Just When I Thought I Had Met An Intelligent Guy, He Did This
It is going to be a long read but I beg for your patience. So, I met this guy at a mutual friend’s house two years back. We had a brief INTELLIGENT conversation and when he asked for my Instagram handle, I didnât hesitate to give it to him right away as I was intrigued by his knowledge of things.
We followed each other, started chatting but conversation ran flat probably because it didnât get through the âHi, Hello. Hope you had a lovely dayâ phase. We moved on and I totally forgot about him. Iâm sure he forgot about me until recently.
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I was at work when I got a message from him on IG and I swiftly replied. I was so excited and I apologized for not reaching out. He seemed pretty much the same to me so I kept replying. He asked to call me on FaceTime but I WAS AT WORK so I told him weâll do that once I get off work.
I got back home really exhausted. He had dropped a couple of messages for me so I replied to them and one of the messages was, âcan I call you now? Please Iâm beggingâ.
I sensed the desperation in the text so I asked if everything was fine and he said he just needed to see me and get a lot off his chest. He told me heâs a sad introvert and just wants to talk. I then told him Iâll need a couple of minutes to shower and get ready for the night before I FaceTime and he replied âoooh. I can help you with that or are you shy?â
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“So much for a sad introvert, lol,” I replied with my classic laughing emoji. I didnât read anything into it. Just thought he was trying to loosen up and act cheeky.
I finally FaceTimed him and he didnât change much from the last time I saw him. We had a smooth conversation. He even made me laugh so hard and deep a couple of times but that was short-lived as he started asking questions. These are questions that you do not ask for the first time after a long time of talking, questions that you do not ask AT ALL.
I will apologize for my use of terms here, thatâs for those who might find it uncomfortable but I have to say it exactly how he said it. He first asked if I was putting on any form of underwear then asked me to show him my look.
Immediately, I was disappointed but I wanted to see where he was headed. He asked me questions like, “who did you fuck last?” “whatâs your favorite sex position?” and “how wide or small is your vagina?” “Do you have anal sex?”
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I was starting to feel really uncomfortable. I wanted to know what knowledge he would gain from these questions. He said nothing, itâs just for bants. He even went as far as writing âyouâve turned me onâ on his palms for me to see. This whole time, I found my way around his questions but I was utterly confused about how the conversation turned into sex talk.
I DID NOT give him that impression neither did I mention anything about sex before we started FaceTiming so you can only imagine my shock. I got tired of the whole conversation and decided to label him a debauchee when he asked to see my breast.
Hei God! I told him I wonât give him that privilege and I needed to go to bed. He turned the talk into me being a naive girl and a killjoy. Said I wasnât mature because I bluntly refused to tell him the size of my veejay?
Anyway, he insulted me. I ended the call and yesterday he sent me a message on IG which reads, âHi dear, can I call you?â
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Beautiful people, whatâs your take on this? Was I actually being a killjoy because I REFUSED to participate in mature people’s convo?