Mum-Of-2, Tia Mowry Gets Candid About Her Postpartum Experience: ‘I Literally Thought Something Was Wrong With Me’
American TV star and mum, Tia Mowry-Hardrict welcomed her second child, Cairo in May 2018, and has completely owned her journey to heal and recover.
The actress who has always been opened about postpartum experience once shared how the snapback culture, which pressures new mums to shed their post-baby weight as fast as possible, has negatively affected her.
As a mom, Mowry — currently starring in the Netflix series Family Reunion — has been candid about the challenges of parenting, from breastfeeding to the pressure to bounce back after giving birth.
In a recent chat with Yahoo Life’s parenting series, Tia speaks on the joys and challenges of child-rearing. The star also shares her tricks for feeding her own family, why she’s been outspoken about the postpartum experience and how her son is following in his parents’ acting footsteps.
In her words:
“I think all kids are picky eaters, and actually my pediatrician told me that there was a reason for this during the survival stages when we were humans on this earth a long time ago, so it’s not not normal to be picky. But I do have picky eaters at the house. I’m a mom of two, so I’ve learned how to navigate through that.
Number one, the easiest thing is hide [laughs]. Of course we want our kids to have vegetables and all of the healthier choices that are out there, and I usually do that with smoothies. The kids will start their morning with a smoothie.
I’ll throw some fruit in there with some veggies and, of course, Lactaid milk, because like I said, we have a sensitivity to lactose in the family and Lactaid has definitely helped us with that.
[Another piece of advice is to ] never give up. I’m that type of person where I just don’t give up even, with parenting. If one day you put carrots in front of your child, and she doesn’t want to try it, try it five days later or try it two weeks later or try a month later.Eventually they’re going to get curious and they’re going to try it. I can tell you today, Cairo is now eating carrot. She was not at the beginning, but it’s been a big win for us. So I would say never give up.
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There’s two things. I’m a huge fan of prepping; that’s the most time that goes into really cooking a meal. The cook time is not necessarily that long, depending on what you’re cooking and how much you’re cooking, but stuff that kids like doesn’t necessarily take that long.
So I would say, definitely prep, even if that’s on a Sunday. Come up with some sort of a meal plan for the family and get all of the kids in the family involved. Like, “What do you want on Monday? Do you want spaghetti and meatballs on Monday? Do you want chicken salad on Tuesday?” Get them involved and make it fun.
And then cut up your carrots, your onions, your garlic, wash your spinach — do all of the prep work first and it will definitely save time. And also you know what you need for the week and you know what you’re making, so you don’t have that overwhelmed, rushed feeling when you’re cooking.
The other thing is I love are one-pot meals, where you’re putting in everything that you need. That’s your protein, your veggies, your starch. For example, if you’re making some chicken with some broccoli and carrots and some small cut-up potatoes, you can put all of that on a sheet tray, put it in the oven and then you have a meal ready for the whole entire family.
I love them as well because it’s less mess, so you don’t have 10 different pots on your stove and there’s a huge chore after you’ve made dinner. Nobody has time for that.
After Cairo’s birth you were really transparent about your postpartum experience and how your body looked. What sort of feedback have you gotten from that, and what has speaking out meant to you?
I have gotten a lot of feedback, and most of it has been positive — a lot of women saying like, “Thank you so much, you’ve inspired me.” And it was birthed because of what I personally went through after — no pun intended — I birthed my children.I had an unhealthy perspective because of what was pushed in society.
So when I saw that my belly wasn’t flat after having a baby and I was not on the beach in a bikini saying, “Yeah, I just had a baby!” I literally thought something was wrong with me. I’m very serious.
I went to my gynecologist and I said, “Why isn’t my stomach going down? Like, what’s wrong with me?” And then she actually told me, “Tia, it takes a minute for your uterus to shrink.” And I’m like, “What? Why is it that people aren’t sharing this? Why is it that people aren’t sharing the authentic aftermath of what happens when we give birth?” Now, for some women that does happen, which is great and awesome — no knock to them. B
ut I wanted be an example for the other women that you necessarily didn’t see being celebrated or glorified in the press or just social media. So I did it because I want to see some change, and the feedback has definitely been positive and inspiring.
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Do you think being a twin affected how you parent your children?
No, not at all. I think the coolest thing about being a twin, and I’ve learned as I’ve gotten older, is to celebrate our differences because we are not the same person, we are not the same people. We have different perspectives on things and I feel like that’s what makes this world a beautiful place. When everybody’s the same, how can you learn and how can you grow from one another?
And I feel like that’s the same thing with parenting. I’m so inspired. I have an inquiring mind about how certain people raise their children or how they do it, because you learn from [it]. So yes, I have one way of doing things, but then I’m also inspired by the way my sister does things and vice versa.
I remember going over to her house one day and I was like, “Wait. So [Tamera’s daughter] Ariah’s just sleeping in her own crib by herself?” [laughs] She was only 4 months old. And she was like, “Yeah!” I was like, “How did you do that?” Whereas my son creeps in the bed with me — not that there’s anything wrong with it, I really enjoy that. I just was curious, like, how did she do it?
You come from an acting family, your husband’s an actor… do you see your kids having those performer instincts?
I definitely see the instincts in my son. My son is funny. He’s definitely an entertainer. He wants to be the center of attention and he’s always making us laugh. He’s actually pursuing acting. He has an agent, he has headshots and he goes out for auditions.
He hasn’t landed anything yet but he’s not discouraged at all because he’s focusing on other things like basketball and you music. So I just monitor his peace and his happiness level, and as long as he’s happy and he’s OK doing it, then he’s gonna do it.
Cairo on the other hand, it’s so hard to get her to smile in front of a camera. This girl, when she sees us whip out a camera or we’re videoing her, she will literally turn her back. She knows what she’s doing. She will turn her back, so we’re not getting the shot [laughs]. So I was like, OK, Cairo will be the president of the United States, and then Cree will go off and win the Oscar.
Your son is turning 10 this month. Is it a big deal for you to see him hitting those double digits?
It’s a huge deal for me, it’s a huge deal for him. I will look at myself in the mirror now and I’m like, Oh my gosh, you have a 10-year-old. Where did the time go? This happened so fast, and it’s actually inspiring me to continue to just hold onto those moments with my daughter.
My daughter can’t stand it, but I’m always kissing her. I’m just kissing her and kissing her and she hates it [laughs[ but I’m like, I don’t have a lot of time. You think you have a lot of time, but you don’t.