Dear MIMsters: How do I reconcile my daughter with her father?

I need an advice that will change my life and that of my daughter. I met a guy where I did my IT in Coca Cola in 2008 and we started dating after my IT in 2009.

In 2011, I took in for him but he said he is not ready to have a baby and can’t marry me with pregnancy and that I should abort the child. But I pled with him to consider my life and that of the baby but he refused and even stopped talking to me.

I went to see his sister and told her. She asked him if it was true, he did not deny it but told her that if I go on to have the baby, I will bear the burden alone. He even tried to poison me once but it didn’t work, so I had to stay away from him.

I had a set of twins, a boy and a girl but the boy died in my womb. My ex is also a twin. I hustled and went back to school, and I have just finished my youth service last month.

Now the trouble is this: My baby is always asking for her dad even in public. She is a smart and sharp 6-year-old. Recently, she asked me why we both have the same surnames. I was shocked and didn’t know what to do and I don’t want to lie to her.

I heard that he is married now, so I don’t know how to go about this and I am an orphan and I don’t have anyone to speak for me.