Dear MIMsters: All I Have Done is Try to be Good to my Frustrating In-Laws
I got married 3 years ago. My first 2 years of marriage was frustrating even though my husband loved me so much beyond words can express.
He doesn’t earn much but we manage. He used to give his parent N5k monthly when we had less, now that he has a bit more with a salary of N50k, I begged him to increase his family’s allowance to N10k.
Now that he has been transferred to Port Harcourt, he visited his parents. His mum was angry and told him that instead of sponsoring his younger sister’s education, he went ahead to marry me. My husband also got angry and told her that she is ungrateful.
I don’t know what else she wants me to do for her. Whenever my hubby is not around on weekends, I go to help them. I have done so many things for them that I have not done for my mum, yet, they keep offending me and I forgive them.
Even when I gave birth via CS, I visited them 6 weeks later, they complained that I didn’t join them to cook. My SIL said I used charms on her brother. I am so angry right now because all I have done is try to be good to them. I need advice on how to handle this.
Why not ignore them, you cannot inconvenience yourself to please others
Its obvious they dont appreciate u, even if u kill ursef for them they would never appreciate u. They dont even care about u, how can a woman who just had a CS come 2 visit them and they expect her to cook? Where does that happen? Everyone know a woman who delivered thru CS needs plenty of rest.
My dear never displease ursef to please any1, i repeat any1. Do what is acceptable to your conscience, build ur home, take care of ur hubby and baby and pray 4 ur inlaws. If they tell u things that hurt please gently and calmly defend ursef or speak up. So they know the era of silence has passed.
then stay away from them
leave dem alone abi
If u ask me u are doing too much. Like has been said biko don’t displease ursef, it’s not worth it. Got married to a first child and had to relocate after marriage, when I was pregnant I travelled to meet my family and we all used to joke about how mil would pamper my baby as per first grandchild, Infact when I was pregnant I would go to her shop and help out. Anyway I gave birth came back and this woman visited me like 4times, if not for my mother who already has 11grandkids(am the last) I would have seen pepper. I was shocked at my inlaws’ lack of interest to say the least, these are people I always visit b4 I gave birth o. After all these I jst decided to mind my business, my hubby sef is still shocked @her attitude. Apparently she’s upset her first son didn’t build skyscraper for her before he married.
No matter how hard one try to please one’s in law, if they won’t appreciate u, they won’t. Pls, stop trying to create a good impression at all cost. Do d little u can and do take care of ur mum, channel whatsoever you’ve been doing on ur parents and you’ll continue to enjoy their blessings .
Let this people be, you have a family to run please.
Please,move away from them,stop trying to please them ,and be very prayerful
You are doing too much to please them and that’s a huge mistake on your path. They will never appreciate you for it. Is it your husband’s responsibility to train his siblings? How much is his income sef? Na wa oh. Stay away from them please.