Dear MIMster: He Gave Me the Ultimatum to Choose Between Him and My Degree
I’m 23 years old and my parents are late. My boyfriend, 33, and I have been dating for over a year now and I love him a lot. We started dating before I got my admission into the high institution to pursue my degree.
When I got admission, my school fees was a problem but finally God did it for me when all hope is gone. My boyfriend has been greatly of help to me. The problem now is that we have been both far away from each other for close to a year now and he doesn’t show love to me like he used to.
Now, he hardly calls, return my calls or replies my chats. I don’t know if he is in another relationship. I have asked him severally to know if I have wronged him, hence the sudden change in his behavior and told me that I didn’t. Yet the situation hasn’t changed.
Early this year, I met another a guy who asked me to marry him. He, Oke, told me to quit my education because he is not capable of sponsoring me but I have refused to leave my studies.
He has given me an ultimatum to choose between marrying him and continuing my education. This relationship is important to me because I love him. How should I handle this?
Please don’t let love deceive you. Education is more important. Do u really want to be in school! If yes try talking to him abt how much you really want dis education, marriage is not something you jump into just Bcos you feel u love him. Pls do have a rethink if he can’t take care of your education den how would he take care of you in marriage, ain’t u gonna bear kids, you don’t want 2 suffer even in marriage I guess. Think before taking any decision.
Don’t try leaving your education for anybody.Its a red flag for you .After your education you will meet a better person to give you the Love u deserve.He indirectly want to takea way ur future power
My dear don’t ever leave your education BC of a guy…..love is not enough to build a home, love should not be the only reason why you want to marry someone. If a guy loves you, he will encourage you to get a degree…..how can a guy that wants to love marry you tell you to choose bw him and ur degree????…. I’m my little experience, the caliber of guys you meet to high extent depends on how far u go and how well you do in life. My dear he is NOT WORTH IT.